Dear Daughter,
Welcome to a world filled with challenges and complexities. I find myself apologizing for the reality you will inevitably confront—a reality that often fails to recognize women as equals. You may encounter individuals who belittle you simply for being female, as if your worth is dictated by your gender.
I regret that your clothing choices may attract unwarranted judgment. No matter your intelligence, kindness, or courage, some will reduce you to the outfits you wear. You may face shaming from those who believe they have the right to dictate what is appropriate. They might label you with derogatory terms like “slut” or “whore,” all under the guise of morality when, in fact, it is they who need enlightenment on true decency. Always remember, your comfort and self-expression are yours to define.
I am sorry that you will need to work harder to prove your intelligence simply because you are a woman. Some may dismiss your brilliant insights, claiming you are “too sensitive” or “too emotional.” It’s disheartening to know that your voice may sometimes be overlooked due to societal biases. Stand firm in your beliefs, and continue to advocate for yourself and others.
I apologize that your brother may have advantages in life simply due to his gender. If you both pursue identical careers, it’s likely he will earn more despite your equal efforts. You may find your qualifications overlooked for promotions, while he receives accolades that you equally deserve. While I remain hopeful for progress, I want you to be prepared to navigate these disparities with confidence. You are strong and capable—never forget that.
I apologize for a society that may view your emotional expressions as signs of weakness. It’s unjust that a natural process like menstruation can lead others to judge your actions or words simply because they assume it affects your mood. Your body is yours, and you should never feel shame about it.
If you choose to have children, I regret that some will criticize your decision to work outside the home, claiming you are neglecting your kids. Conversely, should you decide to stay home, others may think you are taking the easy route. Remember, daughter, that your choices are yours alone to make. Seek what ignites your passion, whether that lies in motherhood or a career.
The world outside may not mirror the respect and love you experience within our family. While it may seem overwhelming now, I want you to hold onto hope. Many individuals are actively working towards a better future for you and countless others. We are engaging in conversations, rallying together, and demanding change through protests and social media. Together, we are advocating for your rights, reproductive freedom, and equal pay. We are challenging the narratives that perpetuate victim-blaming and shame.
The journey for women is fraught with obstacles, but it is also filled with strength and resilience. Embrace your identity with pride; being a woman is not a curse, but a gift. We are powerful, intelligent, and courageous, just like you.
Stand tall, and show the world your fierce spirit.
With love,
Mom
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