Let’s be real. The other day, I reached my breaking point. The kitchen resembled a disaster zone, with clothes strewn about haphazardly, dirty dishes piled on the couch, and cups scattered across the coffee table. One dog wouldn’t stop barking, while the other decided to leave a little surprise on the floor. One child was whining endlessly, and the other was being utterly unhelpful.
I finally snapped. “That’s enough!” I shouted. “Everyone to your rooms! No phones, no games. Just… nothing!” Of course, this led to even more whining. “Why are you so angry?” they moaned. That’s when I really lost it.
This is precisely why moms sometimes lose their cool. It’s not just about that moment; it’s a culmination of countless times we’ve gently asked them to pick up after themselves, only to be ignored. It’s the constant reminders that seem to vanish into thin air, leaving us feeling like we’re talking to a wall. By the time we reach a boiling point, we’re red-faced and shouting, and suddenly, everyone wants to know why we’re upset.
In reality, we’ve given you a million chances. We’re fed up with saying the same things over and over again.
Exhaustion Runs Deep
We’re not just tired; we’re utterly drained. We’re worn out from asking them to put their clothes away, to lower the toilet seat, or to simply put down their phones. We lie awake at night, worrying about everything from our kids’ education to our own sanity.
Before motherhood, I had no clue I could feel such rage or lose my composure so often. I’ve always considered myself a pretty chill person, but the chaos of motherhood can flip that switch from calm to furious in an instant.
Sometimes, it’s the sheer messiness of life that drives us to the edge. Kids leave a trail of clutter, and I’ve cleaned up enough bodily fluids—both human and canine—to last a lifetime! Other times, it’s anxiety that triggers the rage. The stress of finances, work, or even trivial things like why a friend hasn’t responded to a text can weigh heavily on us. And let’s not forget the low-grade fear of real-world calamities that lurk in the back of our minds.
We’re human, flawed, and imperfect. We make mistakes, and sometimes that leads to losing our cool. But more often than not, it’s the overwhelming chaos and unpredictability of parenting that pushes us over the edge.
The mental load of motherhood is immense, yet it often goes unrecognized. We’re not only responsible for our families’ well-being but also feel the weight of the world on our shoulders. We’re frustrated and sad that life isn’t what we envisioned for our children. Our lives are filled with responsibility but often lack joy. Sometimes, we wonder if we’ve lost a part of ourselves in the process, contributing to those moments of losing it.
So yes, this—everything around us—is why we lose our composure. We deserve a break because no one in our situation wouldn’t occasionally lose it.
There’s relentless pressure on parents, especially mothers, to be everything for everyone. It’s exhausting and often feels like a losing battle.
When you find yourself on the verge of losing it, be gentle with yourself. You’re not “crazy.” You’re simply shouldering a heavy load, and it’s okay to drop that basket once in a while. Dust yourself off, shed a few tears if you need to, apologize when necessary, and then keep moving forward with your fierce, unstoppable self.
Because that’s what we do.
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Summary
Moms often lose their cool due to the overwhelming responsibilities and chaos that come with motherhood. The constant demands and lack of recognition can lead to frustration and exhaustion. It’s essential for moms to be gentle with themselves during these moments, acknowledging that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and sometimes snap.
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