Parenting
Becoming a parent brings a whirlwind of decisions—from picking a name and selecting baby’s first food to establishing tech rules and curfews (yikes!). One of the more challenging aspects of parenting is that no matter how you choose to raise your child, if your choices diverge from those of your own parents, it often leads to conflict. And let’s not forget the input from your partner, in-laws, or even well-meaning relatives, which can add to the pressure of your parenting decisions.
If you’re fortunate, your family is laid-back and supportive, allowing you and your partner to navigate parenting without much interference. However, if you come from a lineage of strong-willed individuals, things can get complicated.
As a first-time parent, I have plenty of strong opinions about how to raise my children, even if my experience is limited. Like many, I’m trying to figure it all out by reading books, peer-reviewed studies (being a scientist helps), blogs, and attending parenting classes. I often consult my own parents to understand their approach. But what happens when their advice doesn’t align with my beliefs? It can feel like I’m challenging their parenting choices decades later. How do I respond to the classic retort, “But you turned out just fine!” (Did I? Who knows…)
What worked for me as a child may not work for my kids, who are unique individuals. Plus, recent research offers new insights that might contradict traditional methods. When our pediatrician or a teacher suggests alternative approaches based on the latest findings, I’m inclined to listen.
But what if I’m wrong? What if my parents’ methods were indeed more effective? Could my efforts in breastfeeding have been more successful? If I don’t enforce discipline as strictly as they did, am I inadvertently raising future troublemakers or, worse yet, entitled children?
In today’s world of intensive parenting, it’s common to feel frustrated or disheartened if our childhood experiences differ from what we strive to give our kids. Many parents grapple with the overwhelming expectations placed on them—especially when financial and societal pressures have increased. If you find yourself unable to replicate the upbringing you had, remember that today’s parenting landscape is undeniably tougher than it was for previous generations. And kids? They’re blissfully unaware of these comparisons and are usually just enjoying their lives.
Only when you become a parent do you truly understand these dynamics, and even then, the full picture remains elusive. Here are two key insights I’ve come to realize:
- Judgment Varies
Every person has their own values and perspectives, and that’s completely acceptable! You have your unique strengths and passions that may not align with those offering unsolicited advice. Focus on what feels right for you and your family. If crafting isn’t your thing, skip it! Let your kids express themselves freely, even if it means ignoring outdated comments from relatives about gender norms. - Parents Are Human Too
Everyone makes mistakes and deserves grace—even your own parents. They likely question whether they did everything “right.” Remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting. I hope my kids realize this when they eventually start their own families!
So go ahead and embrace your parenting choices. Your children will appreciate your efforts. Own your decisions—you can do this!
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Summary
Parenting can be challenging, especially when trying to navigate your own style that differs from your parents’. Remember, it’s essential to embrace your unique approach, learn from various resources, and understand that everyone makes mistakes.
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