Before welcoming my first child, I had a myriad of fears swirling in my mind. I distinctly remember my biggest anxieties. It wasn’t the pain or the inevitable changes to my body. I wasn’t concerned about stretch marks, breastfeeding challenges, or the messy diaper situations. Instead, what truly haunted me was the thought of vaginal tearing or the possibility of an episiotomy. Just imagining that area being ripped open, either by my baby or a pair of scissors, made me queasy.
Fast forward to my first delivery: my baby weighed in at a hefty 9 lbs 1 oz. Let’s just say things didn’t go smoothly. With two more siblings arriving each over 9 lbs, my body experienced significant trauma over those five years. I can personally vouch for how crucial it is for women to have ample time to recover after giving birth.
It seems many women resonate with my experience, as evidenced by a viral Facebook photo shared by Laura Thompson. Every woman who has given birth can relate to that last, and largest, circle in the image. She’s absolutely right; we deserve all the pampering and support.
Now, I’m not suggesting you need a lavish push present like a diamond necklace (though if you received one, more power to you!). For me, the essentials after delivering three large babies were simple:
- A nap,
- Someone to entertain my toddler(s) while I rested with my newborn,
- Any food I craved!
Fortunately, I had a fantastic support system (shoutout to my husband who witnessed the aftermath!). The recovery process, especially after my first child, was incredibly tough. I didn’t undergo a C-section, but healing was still challenging.
Reflecting on the intense journey to that 10-cm dilation point, where I pushed for a staggering ninety minutes, it’s evident I needed recovery time. After carrying a human for nearly 10 months (because let’s be real, it’s more than 9 months!), and laboring for over 24 hours, my body was exhausted. The only nourishment I received during that period was ice chips—hardly a feast.
Once my baby was placed on my chest, my OBGYN was still busy making repairs. Meanwhile, my newborn was already ready to eat, demanding my attention just when I thought I could catch my breath. Shortly after, I was sent home while still dealing with the aftermath of childbirth—bleeding, wearing ice packs, and desperately hoping to relieve myself.
A week post-delivery, my bathroom resembled a crime scene, and I could finally sit down without wincing. Eager to venture outside, I agreed to a mall trip with my mom. I thought a little stroll would be refreshing. Spoiler alert: I lasted just 20 minutes before the pain became unbearable.
When I see that viral image depicting how significant 10 cm really is, it makes me question why we push ourselves to bounce back so quickly. Society often overlooks the monumental experience our bodies endure.
While my recoveries with subsequent children were quicker, that first experience—when a 10-cm head made its grand entrance—was nothing short of traumatic. The fears I had about tearing were justified, but I had underestimated the entire postpartum recovery process, which involved soreness, bleeding, and sheer exhaustion.
I’m thankful for the support I received during my first pregnancy. My nurses were incredible, never making me feel weak but empowering me through an experience I never thought I could endure. I couldn’t have done it without my husband, my mom, and my mother-in-law rallying around me with love and encouragement. With their help, I overcame the challenges of motherhood. But let’s be real—10 cm is a lot!
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Summary
The article discusses the challenges and fears surrounding childbirth, emphasizing the importance of recovery time for new mothers. It highlights a viral photo that resonates with many women who have experienced similar struggles, and reflects on the physical and emotional toll of childbirth, while expressing gratitude for the support received during recovery.
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