Being a mother is truly a remarkable experience. The joy and fulfillment I derive from raising my two children is unmatched; they are funny, sweet, and, if I may say so, quite brilliant. However, this Mother’s Day, in honor of this incredible journey, I’m choosing to spend the day without them. Yes, you heard me correctly—no kids allowed!
As much as I adore my little ones, they can be quite demanding and, at times, a bit bratty. Even when their dad is right there with them, they somehow manage to find their way upstairs to interrupt my rare moments of peace in the bathtub—usually just to ask for a granola bar. Every. Single. Time.
Now, my husband is an amazing guy and excels at many things, but spoiling me isn’t exactly his forte. He might plan a sweet breakfast in bed with the kids, or even take our daughter to one of my favorite shops to pick up a gift. While those gestures are lovely and appreciated, they only last about 30 to 45 minutes before I’m back to being a full-time parent—breaking up fights and making peanut butter sandwiches.
Let’s be honest: Not. This. Year.
This time around, I’m taking control and carving out a day to indulge in my own interests, sans family. Is it a little selfish? Absolutely, and it should be!
Think about how we treat dads on Father’s Day. We send them off to play golf or take the kids to the zoo so they can have some peace and quiet. We actively give them a break. I even know a dad who scheduled a massage for Mother’s Day so his wife could enjoy some quality time with the kids. True story!
Last year, at the end of Mother’s Day, I felt deflated. It was just another day filled with tidying up, making lunches, loading the dishwasher, and negotiating screen time with my kids. My husband, being an entrepreneur, likely spent most of the day at the office. By evening, I was left feeling slightly disappointed.
I tend to romanticize these special occasions, waiting for someone else—my husband, in this case—to fulfill my expectations of how the day should go. To be fair, it would be unreasonable to expect him to meet all my imagined scenarios, especially since he’s not even trying to!
I’ve realized that if I keep waiting for someone to give me a break, I’ll be waiting a long time. It’s my responsibility to take that break, and I won’t feel guilty about it. Do dads feel remorse when they’re out on the golf course on Father’s Day? Do they fret about home life while fishing? Nope, and they shouldn’t!
So, this Mother’s Day, you won’t find me at the park with my children or visiting local attractions for some “family fun.” Instead, I’m picking up my mom—who is my biggest supporter—and we’re having a girls’ day out. Lunch, shopping, and all the fun! I’ll leave my family at home and indulge in a day doing what I love. Because let’s face it, as long as I’m with my kids, I won’t be truly enjoying the break I deserve on Mother’s Day.
In summary, this Mother’s Day, I’m prioritizing myself and embracing the well-deserved rest that every mom should have. After all, we all need a little time to recharge!
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