Last night, as you passionately discussed the advantages of finely diced onions in egg salad, it became clear we are not aligned on how to best utilize my time. As you know, I dedicate a minimum of 40 hours a week to work—that’s the majority of my days. My schedule is so tight that I barely find moments to chat, wash my face, or even take a bathroom break without our child’s constant supervision. After spending an hour each night soothing her to sleep, my evenings are precious and fleeting. It’s time for us to embrace what I’d like to term an ECONOMY OF CONVERSATION.
I adore you and enjoy our chats, but I simply cannot engage in discussions that don’t pique my interest. I’d like to gently remind you of the article I shared regarding the mental load and the unequal emotional labor that is increasingly burdening marriages today. You may not recall it since you haven’t read it, even after I sent it to you six times. I’ll forward it again shortly. Part of managing the mental load involves being aware of such articles, though I wouldn’t expect you to grasp that concept.
Without further ado, here are some topics that are now officially OFF LIMITS (and may be added to in the future):
EGG SALAD, obviously.
While I commend you for making it on your own, I have no interest in hearing more about it. I’m well aware of your deep-seated opinions on mayonnaise textures, and therefore, discussions about tuna salad are off the table as well. Seriously, it’s not intriguing that I prefer tuna salad with a crunch while you feel the opposite. Additionally, any conversation about mustard—be it spicy, yellow, or Dijon—is now completely exhausted.
BOWEL MOVEMENTS, you’re finished.
Unless it’s a health EMERGENCY, I’d prefer not to hear about any poop—yours, our daughter’s, or even the dog’s. I have nothing to add regarding my own bowel habits either. I’m not interested in the color, consistency, or any other detail about it. I never have been. I love you. READ THE ARTICLE.
LEBRON JAMES.
While I acknowledge his greatness, I’ve reached my limit on discussions about him. On that note, playoff chatter is officially done. Whether it’s FINALS, SEMI-FINALS, or whatever else, I can only accommodate one sports passion and you have already chosen college basketball. If you wish to propose a swap for your sports-related discussions, please submit your request in writing, which I will review after you READ THE EMOTIONAL LABOR ARTICLE.
ROCKY BALBOA—and yes, I know this will be tough for you.
We’ve already covered this ground, darling. This includes CREED. I recognize your love for these films and the impressive feats of Sylvester Stallone. However, I’d like to move forward without reiterating these points every few months.
WHAT YOU’RE SCRATCHING IF NOT YOUR GENITALS EVEN IF IT’S OBVIOUSLY YOUR GENITALS.
If I’ve done something to suggest that I’m interested in this topic, I apologize. Truthfully, I’d prefer to not witness you scratching at all, but I understand that may be asking too much—much like suggesting you READ THE ARTICLE.
In conclusion, this list is just a starting point. If you have any questions or concerns, kindly direct them to someone other than me.
Yours forever and always,
Your Loving Wife
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Summary: This letter humorously outlines the author’s need for more meaningful conversations, emphasizing the importance of effective communication in a busy family life. It addresses specific topics that should be avoided and encourages the partner to engage more thoughtfully, while also referencing helpful resources for further understanding of emotional labor and family planning.
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