You know those funny memes featuring a creepy bug, usually a spider, with captions suggesting it’s time to set the house ablaze? They’re amusing, right? I can vividly picture myself soaking a spider in gasoline, tossing a lit match its way, and fleeing in terror like one of those inflatable figures outside car dealerships, completely indifferent to the potential loss of my home. Because, well, spiders.
I recall a particularly memorable incident when my sister and her family visited. An unusually large spider was scurrying across the floor, prompting a collective freak-out. We all shrieked and leaped onto furniture, nearly spilling our drinks. I armed myself with a flip-flop and struck that hefty spider, only to watch in horror as it burst into a multitude of tiny spiderlings. We hadn’t realized that the bloated spider was a mother carrying her brood. I grabbed a household cleaner and sprayed the little ones without a second thought. The memory still gives me chills, and each year, it resurfaces in my Facebook memories.
Now, however, I view that moment differently. I no longer recoil at the thought of those tiny dead spider babies; instead, I feel a pang of sympathy for them.
This change in perspective may seem odd, but I believe it coincided with my journey toward embracing my true self. For years, I felt trapped in a heterosexual marriage, desperately trying to uphold an identity that wasn’t mine. I didn’t want to be gay or to be labeled as “unacceptable,” but ultimately, like that spider and her babies, I had no control over my true nature.
I vividly remember the moment it clicked. One quiet evening, after my then-husband had gone to bed, I was on the couch with my laptop, working on a novel about two women in love. Suddenly, a spider darted across the floor. I instinctively reached for something to crush it, but then I hesitated. This tiny creature was just trying to get by, likely confused about its surroundings. To my surprise, I found it somewhat charming. I lifted my feet to avoid stepping on it, feeling a connection to this little being simply existing.
It struck me — should I be punished for who I am? In many places, my identity could lead to dire consequences, much like that spider’s fate at the hands of someone driven by fear or ignorance.
I chose to let the spider go, though the next day, I felt uneasy about it roaming my home. Now, if I find a bug, I gently trap it under a container and have my son relocate it outside. I empathize with them, but I still prefer to keep my distance.
Having moved to a new house after ending my marriage, my children and I continue our “bug rescue missions.” Sometimes, I let bugs be, especially in the garage where my washer and dryer reside. A delicate spider named Felix has made a cozy web above the dryer, and I carefully navigate around it, recognizing that he poses no threat.
Recently, I spotted a line of ants on my sunroom doorknob, likely drawn there by some coconut oil residue from the night before. I decided to let them enjoy their treat, and by the next day, they were gone — satisfied and happy.
While I do take measures to keep bugs at bay around my house, especially living in Florida with its lush surroundings, I no longer feel the urge to exterminate just because I encounter a spider. Every creature has its place, and I strive to let them coexist peacefully.
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In summary, my relationship with bugs has transformed from one of fear to one of empathy, paralleling my journey of self-acceptance.
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