You are navigating life with four little ones all under the age of four. Let’s be real; it’s no secret that you often feel drained even before your day truly begins. Your feet have yet to touch the ground when you’re already met with the whines and cries of your little ones, alongside the all-too-familiar call of “Mommy, I’m hungryyyy!” echoing from various corners of your home.
The baby is urgently demanding nursing or a bottle, breakfast, and a diaper change—all at once. Meanwhile, the toddler is stamping her feet, insisting on immediate access to Mickey Mouse, while the preschoolers are squabbling… yet again. You’ve got to get everyone dressed, comb their hair, brush their teeth, and find the “right” colored sippy cup.
As you pick up yet another toy, elusive Go-Gurt wrapper, and an unused sippy cup, you can’t help but mutter in fatigue, “What’s the point?”
It’s typically while you’re dishing out the fourth plate of pancakes—after having snacked on the ones that didn’t turn out right—that your kids finally reach a consensus. Those pancakes you just made? Forget them. Didn’t you know? While you were busy in the kitchen, they collectively decided that pancakes are no longer in vogue.
Isn’t that just how it goes for us mothers managing four children under four?
The day is filled with cleaning up only to face the same mess (if not worse) by nightfall. Stepping on Lego pieces, shuffling toys aside to create a path, and wiping up spills has become a significant part of your routine. Eventually, you resign yourself to the chaos, letting the mess accumulate until evening, when you’re confronted with more than you anticipated.
You often feel like your identity has vanished. It’s as if a thousand-pound weight lies heavy on your chest as you juggle the myriad demands of your children while yearning to satisfy even a fraction of your own needs.
You pour your heart and soul into motherhood, yet there are moments when you feel you’ve fallen short. Did I give each child enough attention today? Was my hastily prepared dinner nutritious enough? Did I engage with them wholeheartedly? Why do I raise my voice so often?
If only we, as mothers of four under four, could gain insight into how our children perceive us…
Despite the exhaustion and the feeling of being stretched thin, we remain enough. We are their anchor, their unwavering support, and their source of comfort. They are secure enough with us to act out, refuse our meals, and throw tantrums during what should be joyful occasions.
Though we’re but one person stretched across many, we provide safety, even when our emotions wobble.
True, our homes may remain in a state of disarray for years. Yes, at least one of our kids’ rooms might harbor a mysterious and unpleasant odor, and matching socks seem like an unattainable dream. On a good day, we may manage to wash four sippy cups by nightfall; on a challenging day, we might find ourselves scrubbing sixteen character cups after a wild quest to locate the final one.
Our mornings can feel endless. Nap time is often a battle of wills as we try to keep them in their beds. The “witching hour” graces us with its presence between 5-7 p.m., and bedtime is a tactical operation where we must navigate the desires and demands of each little one.
Mothers of four under four lead lives filled with chaos and mess. Yet, if we had the chance to relive it all, we would do so without hesitation—no changes made. Our little ones are still young, and witnessing their growth together is pure joy. We receive multiple sloppy kisses, countless hugs, and all those adorable little falls, and they believe the world revolves around us.
Our fridges are decorated with the masterpieces of four budding artists, bringing smiles as we reach for baby’s morning bottle. They always have a buddy to play and sleep with, and because of us, they will forever share a bond.
To the mothers of four under four, I understand that you may feel unvalued, drained, and overwhelmed by your many roles. Your footing may seem unstable, but you are the glue holding your children’s world together.
If only our children could witness the internal storms we weather, they’d surely encourage us to choose kindness towards ourselves. For even in our t-shirt-stained, frazzled, and emotionally depleted state, we are more than enough for our little crew.
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In summary, the journey of being a mother of multiples is filled with challenges and joy, identity struggles, and moments of triumph. We are enough just as we are, and we must remember to show ourselves grace as we navigate this beautiful chaos.
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