I have to admit, recently, while scrolling through social media, I came across a cherished memory of my now 15-year-old daughter, Lily. I was instantly filled with nostalgia as I remembered her shiny blonde curls bouncing around her cherubic face. Those moments take me back to a time when she was carefree, dancing in public spaces without a worry, climbing into my lap for snuggles, and asking, “Can I sleep with you, Mom?” I do miss those earlier days, and I know I’m not alone in this sentiment. If given the chance, I would savor those little moments even more.
In our mom culture, there’s this notion that we should cherish our children while they are young because they grow up so fast. We often hear phrases like, “Enjoy them while they’re small” or “Time flies; it will be over before you know it,” from older, wiser moms to new mothers at the library. These early years are frequently portrayed as the pinnacle of parenting bliss, and I have often echoed that sentiment.
Then, Something Shifted
“I have so much respect for you now, Mom,” my daughter said to me during a recent spin class, and I can honestly say it was music to my ears. I had to conceal my excitement and maintain my cool as I pedaled vigorously; after all, I wanted to impress her.
Isn’t it incredible? Not only were we working out together, but she admired my spinning prowess too.
What they don’t tell you about watching your kids grow is the plethora of remarkable experiences that unfold. No one warns you about the heartwarming moments when they show maturity by helping with chores or offer a sincere apology. You don’t expect to get a text that makes you burst into laughter during a mundane workday from your once-little girl. Instead, we are often cautioned to brace ourselves for the infamous teenage years, and the looming threat of hormones.
Contrary to the warnings, these teenage years are filled with joy, growth, and fulfillment, and I want to shout it from the rooftops. I love this stage just as much as I cherished her toddler years. Watching Lily blossom into her own unique person is a beautiful journey that I want to embrace fully. I refuse to wish this time away or let it be clouded by nostalgia for earlier stages of her life. Observing Lily, who was once a playful and spirited toddler, evolve into a thoughtful and strong-willed young woman is one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. I can’t take my eyes off her for a second.
She sends me a text that makes me laugh out loud with her witty wordplay, showcasing her blossoming creativity. I admire her loyalty when she chooses to skip a party to support her brother during his baseball game. There’s a quirky habit she has of keeping the tags on new clothes, and although I’m puzzled by it, I’m eager to see where this quirk leads her.
Lily values her integrity above all else, and I can’t help but admire her unwavering strength. She takes pride in achievements that I often overlooked, like maintaining perfect attendance throughout the school year. She sets goals and relentlessly pursues them, and with each passing day, I learn more about who she is and who she aspires to be. This could very well be my favorite phase of motherhood yet.
I still smile at old pictures and reminisce about our summer concert dances, but I know I can’t turn back the clock. What’s essential is staying present in the now, as I recognize that being preoccupied with the past or future can whisk these precious moments away. The chubby cheeks give way to elegant cheekbones, and those delightful blonde curls may transition to a rich auburn or chestnut as she explores her individuality. I want to savor this stage too.
At this moment, I have a child who is evolving—a girl transforming into a woman. A teenager navigating the ups and downs of life, from heartbreaks to sports setbacks. My daughter, who once relied on me for everything, now stands on her own, yet she still chooses to share her life with me.
Delightful Surprises of Motherhood
Being the mother of a teenager brings a series of delightful surprises. We can now engage in conversations about politics, spirituality, and relationships—topics that were off-limits just a few years ago. I sense that she views me differently; she appreciates the hard work, exhaustion, and love I pour into our family. Sometimes, she even expresses her admiration during our spin classes.
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In summary, while the earlier years of parenting are precious, the teenage phase is equally rewarding in its own way. Embracing this journey means appreciating the growth and independence of our children, cherishing every moment as they transition into adulthood.
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