As a parent, I strive to provide a nurturing environment for my children. I prioritize healthy meals, maintain a tidy home, and ensure they understand values like kindness and respect. I firmly believe in encouraging them to pursue their own identities, which is a fundamental aspect of parenting, right?
Apparently, that’s not always the case.
On several occasions, I’ve allowed my son to wear pink clothing when he expressed a desire to do so. It made him happy, and I felt proud that he felt free to express himself. However, the backlash I faced was shocking.
- “Why are you letting him dress like a girl?”
- “Are you trying to confuse him?”
- “People will mock him! How could you?”
Let’s clarify something important: the real harm comes from those who impose rigid expectations on children, not from parents who encourage self-expression.
I’ve lived through the consequences of that kind of pressure. My father insisted I take ballet classes while I longed to play football. I felt silenced, unable to express my true self for fear of shame or punishment. This led to years of bullying, identity struggles, and even mental health challenges, including a personality disorder. I was trapped in a role I never wanted, which strained my relationships and left me with a fractured sense of self.
When it comes to my children, their happiness is what matters most. My son enjoys painting his nails and sometimes wears makeup. He even pushes a stroller around the house, embracing his interests without shame. If he wants to dress as a fairy for a themed party, I support him wholeheartedly.
Recently, he requested two birthday parties: one where he could freely be himself and another where he felt he needed to conform to others’ expectations. It broke my heart to see him feel the need to hide his true self due to the opinions of others.
As long as he’s with me, he’s free to be who he wants to be. I refuse to let societal norms dictate his self-worth. To those parents who cultivate an environment of judgment and intolerance—your attitudes are what’s wrong with the world. Children are not born with hatred or prejudice; they learn it from us, and I won’t allow that to happen in my home.
Encouraging uniqueness and individuality in our children is vital. They need our unwavering support, even when it feels uncomfortable. After all, if we aren’t there for them, who will be?
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In summary, let your children express their true selves without fear. Embrace their individuality, as this is what builds their confidence and character.
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