Lifestyle
I have a little secret to confess: I’ve got a hidden stash of ice cream that’s just for me. Yep, I’ve shed a few tears when my partner devoured the last scoop of chocolate brownie ice cream, and I can’t help but think it might affect our relationship. So, I decided to keep my own supply tucked away in the back of the freezer to enjoy after the kids are asleep. Don’t get me wrong, my children get their fair share of ice cream too, but I refuse to deal with the aftermath of sticky pajamas every time they indulge. For now, they stick to vanilla-based varieties until they can manage an ice cream cone without creating a mess.
Admittedly, I occasionally feel a tinge of guilt for sneaking my ice cream away from my own kids. But the difference between this guilt and the shame I used to feel when I would secretly devour a half-gallon of my roommate’s Haagen-Dazs is astronomical.
For over a decade, I battled a binge-restrict cycle that began when I was just 15. It took me more than ten years to fully understand this unhealthy pattern. I often resonate with the thoughts of the non-diet dietitians I admire, who emphasize that guilt and shame should never be associated with food—unless, of course, you’ve stolen it. Isn’t it ironic? If you find yourself feeling bad for exceeding your “points” or straying from the latest trendy diet like keto or paleo, I urge you to step back and reassess the overall picture.
Here’s a crucial realization: diets are ineffective, and when you deny yourself what you genuinely crave, it only amplifies your desire for it. You are not the problem; the diet is.
Sure, you can label it a lifestyle change, but if you’re imposing food rules on yourself, then yes, my friend, that’s a diet. If breaking these rules leaves you feeling like a failure for having a cookie after 8 p.m. or for choosing real bread for your sandwich, it’s still a diet, just under a different guise.
So, how can you achieve weight loss if diets are ineffective? The truth is, actively pursuing weight loss can actually be detrimental to your health. The psychological toll—filled with shame, self-doubt, and societal bias—can be harmful. Instead, focusing on nurturing your body and moving in ways that promote health—regardless of its size—is the best path to self-respect.
If you find yourself struggling with binge eating or feeling out of control around food, I encourage you to seek support. The anti-diet movement is gaining momentum, and there are professionals available to help you foster a healthier relationship with food. If you haven’t already, I recommend picking up the book “Health at Every Size”; it was transformative for me.
As a mother of two beautiful girls, I am dedicated to protecting them from the societal pressure to conform to thin ideals for as long as possible. I strive to celebrate all body types and emphasize qualities that truly matter, such as kindness, humor, empathy, and yes, their unique sass.
Research supports the pursuit of health over weight, and it’s a significant step toward reclaiming your life from diet culture. Now, who’s in the mood for ice cream? I might even share!
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In summary, stepping away from dieting has liberated me from guilt and shame and allowed me to embrace a healthier lifestyle. Let’s celebrate our bodies and the joy of enjoying food!
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