As Thanksgiving approaches, it’s hard to believe that the time has come for college students to return home. I recently had a discussion with a friend about this transitional period, and I felt it was important to share some insights, especially for those who have experienced this before with their college-bound children.
When my own kids returned home for Thanksgiving after their initial departure for college—an event that often plays on repeat in our minds—they typically arrived feeling: exhausted, overwhelmed, and a bit under the weather. However, it’s crucial to remember that they are likely carrying a heavy load of homework, group projects, and finals looming on the horizon. They may head back to campus shortly after the break, only to return home again in a few weeks.
It’s also natural for them to want to reconnect with friends rather than spending every moment with family. While this can be disheartening, it’s an important aspect of their growth. In this digital age, they are constantly comparing their experiences through social media, leading to feelings of anxiety about their own college life. Questions may arise in their minds such as: Are my peers truly enjoying college life? Do they have more friends than I do? Am I feeling overwhelmed like they are?
When your student walks through the door, they may come with heaps of laundry, and your first instinct might be to document the moment for social media or to have family members ready to ask about their college experiences. However, they might simply need a moment to themselves—and that’s perfectly normal.
In the weeks since they left home, significant changes have occurred. They have adapted to their own schedules, enjoyed the freedom of no curfews, and made choices about their meals at any hour. This newfound independence can be a double-edged sword, as they may be struggling to juggle responsibilities, and their academic performance might not be as stellar as in high school.
Your child has likely formed new friendships, which means they’re evolving in ways you might not fully grasp. They are learning to navigate life independently, discovering both their strengths and weaknesses.
My advice? Allow them to rest. Avoid bombarding them with questions. Embrace them warmly and show them your unconditional love. Expect some challenges when they arrive home, but grant them the gift of grace and understanding. Everything will fall into place.
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In conclusion, welcoming your college student home for the holidays can be a mixed bag of emotions. They are navigating a significant transition, and while it may be tempting to expect them to share every detail of their new life, giving them space and understanding can foster a more meaningful connection during this time.
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