Your Christmas Spirit Needs a Reality Check

Parenting

by Jamie Parker
Dec. 20, 2019

About a month ago, I was browsing through a local department store, picking up a few essentials, when I stumbled upon a sale sign. The store was going out of business, and everything was heavily discounted. One sign, in particular, caught my attention on the toy aisle’s endcap. Intrigued, I made my way down the aisle and was astonished by the prices. For the cost of one small toy, I could grab several. Instantly, my thoughts turned to Christmas and the many nieces and nephews I have. Usually, I can only afford low-budget gifts, but maybe this year would be different!

I quickly checked my bank balance and did some mental math. To my dismay, I realized I wouldn’t be able to stretch my budget this time either. Buying two toys wouldn’t help when I needed twelve, given that the store was closing soon and stock was flying off the shelves. With payday too far off and bills piling up, I found myself in a tight spot.

Walking back and forth, I mulled over my options. Eventually, I decided to reach out to my mother-in-law for a small loan. She agreed, and I gathered the toys I thought would bring joy to the kids.

We fall under the “low-income” category, but we’re not living in poverty; we just exist slightly above paycheck-to-paycheck. My budgeting skills are usually impressive, but on this particular day, I was strapped for cash. It’s crucial to differentiate between being broke and actually living in poverty. Many people fail to grasp this distinction.

Recently, a piece on a parenting site highlighted the struggles of low-income families during Christmas, written by a single mom. The comment section filled with other moms sharing their stories of hardship, ranging from job losses to unexpected medical expenses. These challenges arise daily and can be especially burdensome during the holiday season.

Some readers shared their “solutions,” like having a Christmas savings account or shopping year-round for gifts. While those are indeed helpful strategies, they overlook the fact that some individuals struggle to find an extra $10 each week. Many are barely making ends meet, often choosing between rent and groceries.

This brings me to the dismissive attitudes of some. It’s easy to suggest that working two jobs is the solution when you’ve never experienced the reality of living paycheck to paycheck. Have you ever tried to make a $200 paycheck stretch to cover $350 in bills? It’s simply impossible.

Instead of offering fake sympathies, how about we foster compassion and understanding? All I ask for is a little Christmas spirit. If that’s too much to expect, how about supporting policies that ensure fair wages for all? No one should have to juggle multiple jobs just to survive, especially during the holidays.

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In summary, it’s imperative to recognize the struggles many face during the holiday season and to approach these challenges with empathy.