When it comes to romance, many women envision receiving extravagant gifts like delectable chocolates, lavish bouquets, or being swept off on delightful dates. I can relate; I’m definitely one of those women. But after welcoming two little ones and experiencing unexpected weight gain, I’ve decided to expand my definition of love. While my husband’s affectionate gestures are wonderful, I’ve discovered that it’s equally romantic to indulge in some serious self-care.
This year, I’m embarking on a journey of self-love, and it kicks off with a candlelit dinner for two—just me and my FUPA.
Most of us recall when Beyoncé gave a heartfelt nod to her “little FUPA” back in 2018. For those who might need a refresher, FUPA stands for “fat upper pubic area” (pronounced “foo-pah”). Lately, I’ve been reflecting on mine quite a bit. That area, often referred to as a “mom pouch,” once brought me immense emotional distress. After spending two decades maintaining a slim figure through extreme measures, motherhood hit me like a freight train, leaving me shocked by the changes in my body. Where did my toned abs go? Why wouldn’t those stretch marks fade? And when would my breasts regain their youthful perkiness?
Then, something miraculous occurred. One day, while checking myself out in the mirror, I decided to cast aside shame and embrace self-love. Nowadays, my best life is all about celebrating my beautiful body and rejecting the notion that weight loss should define my self-care. I’ve embraced plus-sized boutiques, groove to Lizzo on the daily, and proudly identify as a supporter of the body positivity movement. My husband has joined the celebration, enthusiastically proclaiming that he finds my fuller figure incredibly attractive, regardless of size.
Here’s the kicker: I feel the same way about my body.
Before I raise a toast to all the FUPAs out there, let’s acknowledge a harsh reality. Embracing a body part that society has long stigmatized is no easy feat. Many of us have tirelessly tried to hide, erase, or avoid our soft tummies and loose skin for valid reasons. The beauty industry has bombarded us with messages that our bodies are flawed and need fixing. The same businesses that profit from our insecurities are the very ones convincing us that a FUPA is undesirable. Unfortunately, many of us still fall for this trap because breaking free from comfort zones and challenging societal norms can be terrifying.
But if adhering to these norms keeps us trapped in shame and self-doubt, it’s time for a wake-up call.
Today, I invite you to my self-love celebration. Bring your fabulous self and your beloved FUPA, along with your cellulite, jiggly arms, and wrinkles. Just remember to tell each of these body parts that they were never the issue. You were never the issue. The shame-based mindset we’ve been conditioned to accept since childhood? That’s the real problem.
Moms face enough societal pressure as it is, and we don’t need constant reminders that our bodies should conform to unrealistic standards. Women everywhere grapple with the idea that our worth hinges on how we look and that we must maintain a certain appearance to be valued.
I’m done with it. Our appearance should not be the most interesting thing about us; we have so much more to contribute to the world than just our size or shape.
Imagine if women everywhere could stop feeling pressured to battle their own bodies. Picture a world where FUPAs could exist freely, unburdened by judgment and negativity. Think about how much more we could accomplish if we weren’t constantly striving for an unattainable body ideal. I genuinely believe that if we could relax about our bellies and allow our FUPAs to breathe, we could change the world.
Remember, there’s nothing you need to achieve, wear, or lose to deserve your space in this world. You can embrace your inherent worth right now by questioning the negative beliefs that prevent you from loving your whole self. Your FUPA is just as deserving of respect as any other part of you. Our bodies are meant to change—whether due to pregnancy or simply the passage of time, every part of us is allowed to fluctuate.
Today, I’m letting my FUPA shine. I’ll be wiggling my belly rolls, admiring my stretch marks, and whispering sweet nothings to my relaxed mom boobs, all while indulging in a delightful box of chocolates, courtesy of my husband.
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In summary, embracing our bodies, including our FUPAs, is an essential step toward self-love. It’s time to challenge societal norms and celebrate every part of ourselves.
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