Welcome to Ask Home Insemination Kit, where our team of “experts” tackles your questions about parenting, relationships, body image, and all those puzzling life moments. This week, we’re discussing how to navigate the playground when bigger kids are zooming around your toddler. Should there be separate spaces for older and younger kids? Do you have your own questions?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
I’d love your thoughts on playground etiquette regarding older kids. I don’t want to constantly have to supervise my toddler just to ensure she isn’t knocked over by bigger kids. There’s always a group of 8 to 12-year-olds running around playing tag and roughhousing near the equipment. It makes it hard for her to enjoy herself! Aren’t playgrounds designed for younger children? I feel like those older kids could easily find another place to play, while my little one doesn’t have that luxury. What’s your take on this?
I have a feeling you might not love my response.
This issue often arises in parenting circles, especially when discussing playground dynamics and what constitutes appropriate behavior. However, I don’t subscribe to the idea that toddlers and preschoolers “own” the playground. That perspective seems to be based on selective anecdotes rather than a widespread issue. It’s not an epidemic of tweens ruining the experience for toddlers when a small child gets bumped or has their finger stepped on.
Most playground equipment is designed for kids aged 5 and up. If your toddler is using equipment meant for older children, it’s essential to recognize that they are sharing a space intended for a different age group. Some parks do have designated areas for children under five, which I appreciate as a parent of four, including two toddlers. In those spaces, older kids should be encouraged to be more mindful. While they shouldn’t be doing parkour among toddlers, they can still accompany younger siblings or parents in that area.
Additionally, it’s important to consider that children with varying abilities may need access to the equipment to enjoy the playground safely. We can’t always tell how old a child is by looking at them, and that’s something to keep in mind.
The reality is that kids aged 8 to 12 still need to play, get exercise, and enjoy the outdoors. We constantly advocate for kids to spend more time outside and be active rather than glued to screens, yet when they do go outside to play, we suddenly label them as “too big” or “too intense.” Public parks are meant for everyone’s lawful and safe use. No one person can dictate who plays at a public park. There’s a balance to be struck, and it’s possible to find it.
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Summary
Navigating the playground dynamics between toddlers and older children can be challenging. While it’s understandable to feel protective of your toddler, it’s also important to recognize that playgrounds are designed for various age groups and activities. Encouraging mindfulness among older kids and advocating for separate play areas can help create a safer environment for everyone.
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