Hey there, fellow parents! Let’s have a chat about something crucial: don’t let your children treat you like their housekeeper.
As a mom of three, I’ve been navigating the challenges of having our entire family at home nonstop since the beginning of March due to the pandemic. While I’m all for doing our part to keep everyone safe, the mess? It’s out of control!
In our usual routine, my kids are in school, my partner is at work, and I’m buzzing around to various commitments. But now, with all five of us cooped up together, the house has become a chaotic whirlwind of toys, clothes, and an alarming number of snack wrappers. Honestly, it looks like a bomb went off—if that bomb was filled with clutter!
I’m not a domestic goddess or a design expert; I just want a clean and somewhat organized home. A little mess is okay, but utter chaos raises my anxiety levels. Since we don’t have a housekeeper, the task of tidying up often falls on me.
Sure, I could tackle the cleaning solo after the kids are in bed; sometimes, it’s even faster. But being my kids’ personal maid? No way! For several reasons, I refuse to let that happen.
First of all, cleaning up alone while the kids lounge around is infuriating. When I’m feeling resentful, I’m not the mom I aspire to be. My kids don’t have a maid; they have a mom who deserves a little help. If I were a maid, I would have set hours and could clock out. But as a mom, I’m always “on duty.” If I take on all the cleaning myself, I’d never find a moment to feel like I’m off the clock.
Equally important, my kids need to learn how to maintain a home. They shouldn’t think that laundry magically appears clean or that meals prepare themselves. If I don’t show them how to do household chores, they’ll grow up without essential life skills. It’s crucial to teach them how to do laundry, wash dishes, and tidy up after themselves.
Furthermore, they need to understand the importance of being good citizens. If I want my kids to coexist well with future roommates and partners, they must learn to respect shared spaces and take responsibility for their messes. If I do everything for them, they’ll become adults who can’t do a simple load of laundry or load a dishwasher.
My husband and I both learned how to manage household tasks from our parents. We understand that housework isn’t just “women’s work” or the responsibility of a stay-at-home parent; it’s a shared duty. We want our kids to see that taking care of our home is a collective effort.
Involving everyone in chores helps establish a sense of teamwork and belonging in our family. During the day, we all pitch in as we go along. If you see trash on the floor, pick it up—regardless of who left it there. If you notice a piece of clothing on the floor, toss it in the hamper. Everyone contributes to making our home a welcoming place.
Pitching in also builds self-esteem and trust. For instance, my youngest recently helped bring groceries in from the car. I asked him to open boxes of snacks and put them in the basket. It took him longer than usual, but when he finished, he was bursting with pride. “I did it, Mommy! All by myself!” That day, he didn’t just learn about snacks; he learned he could accomplish new tasks and that I trust him.
If you haven’t had your kids help out until now, it’s never too late to start! Assign age-appropriate tasks and gradually increase their responsibilities. Remember, every child is different, so don’t stress about what chores other kids might handle. Focus on what works best for your family.
In conclusion, it’s crucial to avoid letting your kids treat you like their maid. Encouraging them to contribute to household chores is beneficial for both them and you. It teaches them vital life skills while alleviating some of your workload.
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