In my nearly two decades of motherhood, one crucial lesson stands out: Don’t expect others to make Mother’s Day special for you. To your children, it’s just another day, and while partners may mean well, they often can’t decipher your unspoken desires. Taking ownership of this day is perfectly acceptable.
In the past, I didn’t realize that my expectations were set too high because I rarely voiced my preferences. This often led to feelings of disappointment. However, after my separation three years ago, I learned that if I wanted Mother’s Day to be meaningful, I needed to take the initiative.
One significant change has transformed how I celebrate Mother’s Day. As a single mom, I chose not to wallow in self-pity. I realized that I had the power to shape this day—either positively or negatively. Opting to prioritize myself was the winning choice, so I now meticulously plan my own celebration.
This isn’t selfish; it’s essential self-care. It’s about avoiding unmet expectations and the resentment that follows. I will always remember to honor myself on this special day because, quite frankly, I deserve it. I often wonder why I didn’t take control of Mother’s Day sooner.
Make This Day About You
Single moms, I urge you not to overlook this day. Whether we’re in a pandemic or not, your feelings matter. This has been a challenging time for everyone, and we all face our unique hurdles. I’ve caught myself thinking that perhaps I shouldn’t bother celebrating Mother’s Day this year, telling myself I don’t need anything special. But then I remember the joy I experience when I take my kids out for sushi or enjoy a movie together. This year, we’ll order takeout and have a movie night at home—because that’s what I want.
Recently, I treated myself to some new makeup—my favorite mascara and eyeliner, which should arrive just in time for Mother’s Day. It’s a gift from me to myself, and I can’t wait to enjoy it.
Simple Celebrations Matter
This year may feel different, and it might be tempting to brush off the day entirely, but a grand celebration isn’t necessary. While we may not be able to enjoy a fancy brunch, consider requesting a favorite meal from your kids or cooking it yourself. If there’s a pair of earrings you’ve had your eye on, order them. Or, take a few hours for yourself—retreat to your room, light a candle, listen to your favorite tunes, take a long bath, or dive into a book. A little solitude can work wonders.
You’ve probably been longing to pamper yourself, especially since outings are limited. Why not buy a gift certificate for your favorite local spa or salon? Giving yourself something to look forward to is vital.
Don’t Let the Day Slip By
Don’t let this day slip by unnoticed; if you do, it’ll blend into the next, and you can’t afford that. You deserve recognition, celebration, and a moment to acknowledge all that you do for your family. Click that “add to cart” button, strap the kids in for a fast-food run, or settle in with a book while letting them enjoy their devices.
I understand that feeling appreciated on Mother’s Day can be challenging, especially without a partner to plan something (even if you had to remind them). However, let this year mark the beginning of a new tradition. It doesn’t matter what it is; just make sure to remember your own worth this year. Even in these demanding times, it’s crucial to show yourself some love.
Resources for Further Support
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In Summary
Prioritize your own well-being this Mother’s Day. It’s about time you recognized your efforts and cherished the role you play in your family’s life. You are deserving of celebration.
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