I Created a New Day of the Week and Other Strategies for Transforming My Life into a ‘Staycation’

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Designing a life that doesn’t necessitate frequent breaks can seem like a daunting task. When I first encountered the notion, “Create a life you don’t need a vacation from,” I dismissed it. As a dedicated full-time provider and a solo parent to three energetic boys, I felt overwhelmed by the demands of daily life. My responsibilities included managing family events, solving problems on the fly, and providing emotional support—all while juggling my own ambitions. However, I began to contemplate: what if such a life were possible? It seemed too appealing not to explore.

Throughout this journey, I have made significant strides toward crafting a life that brings joy rather than exhaustion. Here are five straightforward adjustments I implemented:

1. Embraced Offers of Help
   Initially, I underestimated the saying “it takes a village.” Accepting assistance felt like an admission of failure, but once I began to say “yes” to help, everything shifted. My children benefitted immensely from engaging with others, learning about diverse cultures, languages, and lifestyles. They enjoyed enriching experiences like trying new foods from our neighbors and spending quality time with grandparents, which research suggests can also enhance longevity for them. So the next time someone offers to take your children for a while, consider accepting the gift.
2. Stopped Justifying My Choices
   I used to feel defensive when others questioned my parenting methods. Constant unsolicited advice from social media, family, and friends was overwhelming. I decided to stop responding to critics. If someone pressed me, I simply stated, “This is what works best for my family,” and shifted the conversation. The unsolicited input dwindled, and the emotional weight lifted. I realized that no one understands my family dynamics better than I do, allowing me to trust my instincts.
3. Created a New Day of the Week
   When my boys were young, I often felt confined by my responsibilities. To break the monotony, I introduced “Freedom Days.” Every Sunday became a time when each family member could pursue individual activities—provided they did so alone. This led to incredible moments, like when I painted uninterrupted for 12 hours! Soon, Sunday transformed into our favorite day—a day for creativity, relaxation, and personal reflection.
4. Redefined Our Family Norms
   I began reevaluating the rules I enforced at home, many of which stemmed from traditional expectations. For instance, the old belief that family meals must be enjoyed together was stressful, often leading to rushed dinners. Our new norm allows for flexibility: quick meals on weekdays and family dinners on weekends. The same goes for birthday celebrations; instead of lavish parties, we now prioritize experiences, such as outings or adventures with loved ones. This shift has created cherished memories without the usual stress of planning.
5. Encouraged Independence
   Fostering independence in my children has been transformative. The sooner they learn to handle tasks for themselves, the less I have to manage. I taught them essential skills like laundry, cooking simple meals, and even navigating purchases online before they turned ten. While I love caring for them, witnessing their self-confidence grow has been far more rewarding.

I modified the phrase “Create a life you don’t need a vacation from” to a more relatable mantra: “Build a life you love.” This saying is prominently displayed in our kitchen, serving as a reminder to continuously say yes, reassess our choices, redefine our norms, and trust ourselves.

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Summary

By making small yet impactful adjustments in my life, I have begun to cultivate a reality where I don’t feel the need for constant vacations. Embracing help, ceasing to justify my choices, introducing personal days, redefining norms, and promoting independence in my children have all contributed to this transformation. These changes have fostered a more enjoyable and fulfilling family life.