Now is the Perfect Moment to Initiate — and Sustain — Conversations About Sex with Your Children

As parents, life has dramatically changed. Gone are the days of rushing out the door for school, shuttling kids to various activities, and frequent grocery runs. Now, amidst working from home, we are taking on multiple roles, including that of a sex educator.

In May, we observe Sexual Education for All Month, which emphasizes the need for all youth to access vital information and skills for making healthy choices. As a parent and a sex educator, I strongly urge parents and guardians who are spending time at home with young people to engage in conversations about sex, relationships, consent, bodies, love, puberty, STIs, contraception, and more. The more these subjects are addressed, the less uncomfortable they become, leading to children who are well-informed and can approach you with questions.

To guide you in these discussions, consider these five points:

Start Early — There’s No Time Like Now
It’s never too soon to begin these conversations. As a sex educator, I’ve woven discussions about bodies and boundaries into my children’s lives since infancy. Simple topics, like why asking for permission before using a toy is crucial, introduce foundational concepts of consent at a young age. Regardless of your child’s age, if these conversations are lacking, it’s time to initiate them now.
Break it Down into Smaller Talks
Rather than having a single, intimidating discussion, opt for ongoing, casual dialogues. Most of my exchanges with my kids are brief and feel natural. We often reflect on the media we consume together, discussing the outdated stereotypes and problematic messages in films. Or while walking our dog, we explore topics like sexual orientation and gender identity.
Answer Questions as They Arise
If your child is asking questions, it indicates they feel comfortable approaching you. With more time together and relaxed screen time rules, they may have new inquiries. Your responses don’t need to be elaborate—provide honest, factual information appropriate to their understanding. Encourage them to clarify their questions; their curiosity might surprise you. For additional support, consider resources like “A Guide for Teens: Talking with Parents &/or Trusted Adults About Sex”, which can empower them to engage in these discussions.
It’s Okay Not to Have All the Answers
You won’t always know the answer to every question, and that’s perfectly fine. Acknowledge their question, express gratitude for their openness, and if needed, suggest researching the answer together. If you choose to postpone your response, be sure to follow up later. Failing to do so could send a message that you’re not an #AskableParent.
Embrace Inclusivity and Patience
Affirm your child’s identities, including sexual orientation and gender identity. Regularly remind them you support them unconditionally. Also, recognize that children may seek information from other trusted adults; that’s normal and healthy.

In essence, sex education is crucial. It equips children with essential life skills. This May, leverage your time together to foster open discussions and ensure they are well-informed. For more insights, check out this related post on home insemination and parenting. As you navigate this journey, remember: you are doing great!

For more information on sex education resources, visit Make a Mom, an authority on this topic, or explore Healthline, an excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.

Summary:

Engaging in conversations about sex and relationships with your children is vital for their development. By starting early, maintaining open dialogue, and providing factual answers, you can create a supportive environment. Remember to be patient, inclusive, and follow up on discussions, ensuring your child feels comfortable seeking information from you.