In the midst of a global pandemic, the challenges faced by children have become increasingly evident. Just the other day, as I tucked my nine-year-old son, Jack, into bed, he expressed his feelings of confusion and sorrow. “One day we were talking about the coronavirus during lunch, and the next, we couldn’t return to school. I just want to go back and see my friends, Mommy. I miss doing normal things.” His innocence and pain struck me deeply, as I held him through his tears, trying to console him. This wasn’t the first time I had witnessed such emotional turmoil in him, and I fear it won’t be the last.
While I understand that children are often touted as resilient, and they indeed possess remarkable strength, the ongoing nature of this pandemic is wearing down that resilience. Initially, I clung to the belief that they would emerge unscathed from this experience. However, watching my once lively son become so despondent has made me acutely aware of the severe academic, social, and emotional toll this situation is taking on our youth.
It’s crucial to acknowledge that although my children face challenges, they still have advantages that many others do not. They have a home, food, and the necessary technology for distance learning. Unfortunately, many children are not as fortunate; some only receive one meal a day, lack essential learning tools, or are trapped in abusive environments without avenues for help. Tragically, some are grieving the loss of loved ones due to this devastating virus. Still, even within our relative privilege, my children are struggling.
Jack and his sister, Lily, who is eight and academically typical, are both affected by this situation in unique ways. Jack has severe ADHD, which brings with it a set of challenges that complicate his learning. The educational gap for children with special needs is glaring. Distance learning does not meet Jack’s specific requirements outlined in his 504 plan. He thrives on structure and consistency, which have been completely disrupted. Despite the best efforts of both myself and the school, Jack’s academic and social-emotional goals are not being met. The long-term effects of this disruption remain to be seen.
Lily, on the other hand, struggles with self-motivation. While she enjoys subjects like reading and math, the lack of classroom dynamics leaves her disengaged. It’s difficult for her to find enthusiasm for learning when the excitement of school is replaced by a screen. She may complete assignments, but her interest in the learning process has dwindled week by week.
Both Jack and Lily are feeling the social impact as well. The elementary school years are critical for developing interpersonal skills. While they have turned to online platforms to connect, the challenges of socializing through screens have become apparent. Jack is starting to isolate himself, opting out of virtual interactions, whereas Lily seems to misinterpret social cues in text messages. FaceTime cannot replace the richness of in-person connections, and both children are experiencing a sense of profound loneliness.
Emotionally, the effects are evident. Lily, once full of joy, is now losing her spark. Each day feels monotonous, and she often calls me at work to express how much she misses me. Jack has developed anxiety surrounding outings, worrying about the risks involved. They both struggle to understand why they remain at home and when life will return to normal. This uncertainty breeds a layer of anxiety that weighs heavily on their young hearts.
So, no, my children are not all right. All I can do is offer them more hugs, try to address their questions and fears, and hope that when this is over, they are left with only faint scars. For further insights on parenting during these unusual times, check out our other post here: Home Insemination Kit.
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Summary
The ongoing pandemic has created significant emotional, social, and academic challenges for children. While some families may have resources and support, many children are experiencing profound distress and uncertainty. It’s essential to recognize these struggles and seek information and support during these turbulent times.
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