When I was young, all I wanted was to have my ears pierced. My dad didn’t allow it, so while my friends flaunted their earrings, I resorted to crafting fake ones from toy parts and tools I found around the house. Eventually, I got my ears pierced, but with strict limitations — only tiny studs were permitted.
In 8th grade, I yearned for a chic asymmetrical haircut, but my parents set boundaries again, insisting I could only have shoulder-length hair. My style aspirations, from ripped jeans to makeup, were constantly shot down. Sneaking makeup on the bus became my rebellion until my parents found out, leading me to sneak it in the girls’ bathroom instead.
It wasn’t until my mother’s attitude shifted during my high school years, following their divorce, that I began to express myself freely. I felt immense anxiety over my appearance, which was solely mine to control. My parents’ insistence on regulating how I looked ultimately stemmed from their concerns about how I reflected on them.
So when my daughter expressed a desire to get her nose pierced, I took her without hesitation. When she wanted a shaved eyebrow slit, I supported her choice. I remember a stylist voicing her disdain for the look right in front of my daughter, which ignited my protective instinct. I firmly told her to focus on her job, reminding her that self-expression is personal.
My daughter has explored various styles — from vibrant hair colors to unique makeup trends. Recently, she earned enough to get her belly button pierced, and I happily took her to the appointment. She is growing into her independence, and while I still require her to ask permission for certain things, her body and appearance are not negotiable with me.
I believe in empowering my kids to express themselves as soon as they are ready. My sons sported painted nails without a second thought, and I only pierced my daughter’s ears when she asked. My oldest son even pierced his own ears impulsively, embodying our family’s ethos of self-expression.
With three teenagers at home, their ever-changing styles keep me guessing. I won’t restrict them from wearing earrings or coloring their hair if it brings them joy. If they want something, they’ll find a way to achieve it, even if it means being a bit stubborn, just like I used to be.
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In summary, I firmly believe that my teenagers should have the freedom to express themselves through piercings, hair styles, and fashion choices. Their bodies belong to them, and allowing them to make these decisions fosters their independence and self-identity.
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