The “Ask Home Insemination Kit” column is where our team provides insights and answers to your burning questions about life, parenting, and everything in between.
This week… What do you do when it feels like others won’t stop asking if you’re “hoping for a boy” after having two girls?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
My partner and I are the proud parents of two lovely daughters, ages three and one. My husband hails from a large family—he’s one of four siblings, and each sibling has three to five kids. We always planned on having just two children, and we are incredibly happy with our girls. We aren’t focused on the sex of our kids at all (we even skipped the whole “gender reveal” nonsense because it’s totally pointless), but our family, friends, and even some acquaintances keep pestering us about whether we intend to “try for a boy” next. This constant questioning feels so disrespectful to our current children and is frankly none of anyone’s business! Their persistent inquiries make us quite uncomfortable.
Honestly, the idea of “trying for a boy” is a concern that only matters to those who are fixated on outdated traditions, like aristocrats worried about passing down a title to a male heir. It’s astonishing how many people seem to lack respect for personal boundaries when it comes to family planning and the composition of a family. Having two daughters is perfectly fine, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting a son either. It’s baffling that people obsess over the gender of children when they have no control over it. Why the fascination?
The best way to handle this is to be straightforward. Since these individuals are direct in their questioning, you have every right to respond without feeling guilty.
THEM: “Aww, two girls! Are you going to try for a boy?”
YOU: “Nope! We’re completely content with the two wonderful kids we already have.”
THEM: “But wouldn’t you love to have a son and enjoy [insert ridiculous gender stereotype here]?”
YOU: “Nope! We’re completely content with the two wonderful kids we already have. But since you seem to think otherwise, I’m curious why that is?”
THEM: *silence*
Turning the discussion back on them can often catch them off guard. Usually, they won’t have a good reply, and they may change the subject or leave you alone after that.
Best of luck navigating these awkward situations. Stay safe this holiday season. For more insights on family planning, you can explore this helpful resource on pregnancy and home insemination.
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In summary, it’s essential to remain steadfast in your choices as parents, regardless of societal expectations or opinions. You’re doing great with your two daughters, and their happiness is what truly matters.
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