Recently, in a private parenting group on Facebook, a parent asked for guidance on choosing a car for her teenage daughter. She wanted insights on what factors other parents considered when buying a first car for their teens—where to find good deals, average spending, how much their kids contributed, and tips for verifying a car’s history.
Many commenters offered solid advice, sharing car-buying websites that provide complete vehicle histories and allow for online negotiations. Some discussed how their teens had savings accounts or part-time jobs to contribute to the purchase or cover expenses like gas and insurance.
However, a few parents chimed in, bragging about purchasing their children high-end cars without asking for any contribution. These parents were willing to take on extra payments, pay for insurance and gas, and justified it with statements like, “school comes first” or “they’re too busy.” One mother claimed she had to spend $12,000 because anything less wouldn’t be safe enough.
I try not to judge other parents’ choices, and if spoiling your kid is how you roll, then go for it. But the notion that you can’t find a safe car for under $10,000 is absurd. The car I drive is worth about $5,000 now; I bought it almost new 11 years ago and plan to keep it for as long as it runs. Despite that, I’m told my car isn’t safe for kids? Am I a negligent parent for not upgrading?
These affluent parents seem to believe they cannot subject their kids to what they view as a dangerous situation. They express exaggerated fears about their children’s safety as if it is universally understood that only expensive vehicles can ensure that safety.
To my fellow parents, if you can afford to splurge on luxury items for your children, recognize that this is a privilege, not a necessity. It’s essential to remember that many parents struggle to afford a car for themselves, let alone for their kids. When you announce that you wouldn’t dare spend less than ten grand on a vehicle for your child, it comes across as insensitive and privileged.
Feel free to buy any car you wish for your kid, but please don’t use “safety” as a justification to validate your spending. All parents care about their kids’ safety, but not everyone can afford to spend extra for that peace of mind. Just because you can afford the luxuries doesn’t mean it’s a requirement or proof of your parental love.
Whether it’s premium winter boots, high-end instruments, or costly tutoring, if you can afford these extras for your child, that’s great—but they remain luxuries, not needs. When discussing these topics, please be aware of how you come across; otherwise, you risk appearing oblivious and insensitive.
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Summary:
The post addresses the misconception among some affluent parents that spending large amounts on their children’s first cars is a necessity for safety. It argues that while parents can choose to buy luxury vehicles, this should not be framed as a requirement, as many families cannot afford such expenses. The emphasis is on recognizing privilege versus necessity in parenting decisions and the importance of sensitivity in discussions surrounding financial choices.
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