Do you remember how Valentine’s Day felt in the ’80s or ’90s? Back when we were just kids in school? It was a blast! With Hershey Kisses, heart-shaped candies, and those adorable “I Choo-Choo-Choose You” cards (of course, for the whole class), it was a delightful time. It was a perfect excuse to chat with friends and indulge in sweets. While the holiday has its share of issues — too complex to cover in this brief piece — for young children, Valentine’s Day has always been a delightful experience. I remember loving those conversation hearts and Lisa Frank stickers. But somewhere along the way, things shifted. No, scratch that: parents shifted, and now Valentine’s Day resembles a mini Christmas.
Valentine’s Day was never intended to be Christmas 2.0.
I can already hear you thinking: Who is this person telling me how I should spend my money and celebrate holidays? She must be bitter or cynical. But hear me out — I’m raising this point out of love.
Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day of romance, celebrating affection and attachment. Despite its darker origins — as History notes, St. Valentine was beheaded by Emperor Claudius II — today it serves to honor those we cherish. As much as my kids enjoy toys like video games and LOL dolls, they are just that: material items. They don’t embody real affection or love, which I believe we should teach our children through genuine relationships.
We express love through actions: we bake cookies, dance, hug, and talk about what it means to truly love someone. Love isn’t something you can wrap up in a package; it’s about kindness, respect, empathy, and understanding.
Reasons to Dial Down the Extravagance
There are several reasons to dial down the extravagance of Valentine’s Day. For starters, “things” can be costly, and not every family can afford to celebrate in a big way. Kids who don’t receive fancy gift bags may feel left out, and that’s a shame. No child should think they are unloved because they received a simple treat instead of the latest trending toy.
Additionally, simplifying Valentine’s Day teaches children humility and gratitude for the little things in life. It’s important to remember that sometimes the smallest gestures bring the greatest joy.
Moreover, nobody needs the stress that comes with planning yet another high-stakes holiday. The shopping, wrapping, baking, and crafting can become overwhelming. The expectations are often set too high.
Valentine’s Day should remain just that: a single day. Kids should learn that holidays can be meaningful without elaborate celebrations. The most authentic expressions of love come from the heart, not from material gifts.
Finally, kids already have plenty of toys and treats from other occasions. They don’t need yet another stuffed animal or toy they’ll likely forget about. And honestly, let’s leave the over-the-top goodie bags at home. A simple card with a sticker or a lollipop is more than enough.
So, if you want to label me as Cupid’s grumpy relative, go ahead. Call me bitter if you like. But consider this: our children don’t need more stuff this Valentine’s Day. What they truly need is the love and presence of their friends and family.
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Summary:
Valentine’s Day should focus on meaningful relationships rather than extravagant gifts. The holiday, originally intended to celebrate love, has become overshadowed by commercialism and high expectations. It’s essential to teach children about genuine affection through experiences, not material possessions. Simplifying Valentine’s Day can help foster gratitude and humility, allowing kids to appreciate true connections with family and friends.
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