When my teenage son expressed a desire to attend a New Year’s Eve gathering with his friends and girlfriend, I found myself navigating a challenging situation. Setting ground rules is never easy for a mother of a 17-year-old, but the pandemic made it somewhat simpler to decline his request.
Naturally, I was cast in the role of the villain, especially since other parents were adopting a more relaxed stance, allowing their kids to “enjoy themselves” after a tough year. Yes, I understand it’s been a difficult year, Karen; I’m in the same boat.
Fast forward a few months, and when another friend of my son’s turned 18, his parents rented a hotel room for him and his friends to “celebrate.” Once again, I found myself in the crossfire after saying no. Other moms were reaching out to me, my son was upset, and his friends bombarded me with texts trying to persuade me that everything would be fine.
When my son developed a scratchy throat and runny nose before Christmas, I was the one who noticed and took him for a COVID test. When my kids yearned to return to school after months of online learning, it was me they approached to plead their case. Just last week, I snapped when my daughter was invited to a slumber party, and I had to refuse. I felt awful—these kids have faced enough hardship—but a sleepover could easily turn into a super-spreader event, especially with teenagers involved. We all recall the days of sneaking out or sneaking people into parties. My gut feeling is that if a parent is okay with a sleepover, they might not be taking COVID precautions seriously.
While my daughter seemed to understand my decision, the day of the party arrived and the father of the host called me—while I was working, no less—to discuss my refusal. He spent ten minutes arguing that they were taking the situation seriously and wanted me to reconsider. But of course, he didn’t reach out to my ex-husband—once again, I was the one prioritizing our family’s health and bearing the brunt of the blame.
Traditionally, this burden falls on mothers, even in non-pandemic times. I’ve always been the one to notice when a child needs a medical appointment before my ex-husband does. I make those appointments and ensure they get to their activities. I’m the one they turn to for social arrangements. When we run low on snacks, the kids inevitably come to me.
Over the past year, every single decision felt like a matter of life and death, placing the onus on mothers everywhere to approve or deny nearly every family action. It has been exhausting, and it’s no wonder we feel caught in a lose-lose situation. The weight of responsibility is immense, and it’s not fair that we have to shoulder such decisions alone.
I’ve heard partners—current and former—claim it’s because we’re “better at it.” I call nonsense on that. Being the one who constantly worries and has to say no, deciding how risky it is to take a child to the doctor for something unrelated to COVID, and weighing whether a trip to the store for a single item is truly necessary can feel paralyzing.
When these responsibilities are thrust upon mothers, we morph into protective “Mama Bears,” and our kids may perceive us as fun-sapping tyrants. Meanwhile, we lose sleep, our minds racing to figure out how to manage this chaos. This is the reality of motherhood, and it’s taking a significant toll. Personally, I’ve never experienced such profound exhaustion in my life.
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In summary, mothers have taken on the role of decision-makers during the pandemic, navigating complex situations while bearing the weight of responsibility and worry. This has led to unprecedented exhaustion, as we strive to protect our families and maintain a sense of normalcy.
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