Pregnancy Is Not Just for “Goddesses” and Birth Isn’t Always “Natural”

Language wields immense power. It can wound, incite conflict, and fracture relationships, but it can also heal, comfort, and dismantle emotional barriers. A single word or phrase can either foster inclusivity or alienate individuals and entire communities. When it comes to the sensitive topics of pregnancy and childbirth, using thoughtful and inclusive language is essential. The people seeking guidance from birth workers, friends, and family deserve to hear language that embraces and affirms their experiences.

Pregnancy Is Not Exclusive to “Goddesses”

When people envision pregnancy, they often think of terms like women, wives, mothers, and mamas. While it’s common to associate pregnancy with women, it’s crucial to recognize that not only women can become pregnant. Transgender men and nonbinary individuals can also experience pregnancy. Moreover, it’s a misconception to assume that all pregnant people are heterosexual, coupled, or married. Many singles and queer couples, who do not conform to the traditional narrative of family, pursue pregnancy.

In my own experience attending a birthing class with my former partner, the instructor repeatedly referred to me, the non-pregnant birthing partner, as “Dad.” This misrepresentation was frustrating, and despite my attempts to correct her, she failed to acknowledge the diversity of family structures. As a result, I became more discerning in my search for healthcare providers and birth workers who prioritize inclusive language. If a resource uses gendered, cisgender, or heteronormative language, it’s often a red flag that the care provided may not be inclusive or respectful.

Using inclusive language about pregnancy and childbirth isn’t merely about sensitivity or political correctness. Adopting terms like pregnant person, birthing person, postpartum individual, partner(s), parent(s), and they/them pronouns does not diminish anyone’s experience; rather, it fosters an environment where everyone feels included. Birth workers and family members can certainly tailor their language according to individual preferences, but in general discussions about pregnancy, it’s vital to move away from heteronormative language.

Birth Is Not Always “Natural”

Pregnancy can occur in various ways, and childbirth can take many forms. No single method is superior or more “natural” than another. Phrasing such as “Did you get pregnant the old-fashioned way?” carries implicit biases, implying that only cisgender, heterosexual couples can conceive simply through sexual intercourse. Many individuals rely on assisted reproductive technologies, like sperm donors or IVF, and they should never feel ashamed of their journey to pregnancy.

When discussing childbirth, the priority should be the safety and well-being of both the birthing person and the child. Some may boast about having a “natural birth,” typically meaning a vaginal or unmedicated delivery. While both are valid experiences, this notion unfairly stigmatizes those who opt for epidurals or require cesarean sections. Terms like belly birth or abdomen birth might resonate more positively for some individuals who undergo cesarean deliveries.

Every birth story is valid, and no method should be deemed more favorable than another. Everyone deserves to celebrate their journey into parenthood, regardless of how their child entered the world. Your body’s ability to bring life into the world is an extraordinary feat.

Breastfeeding Is Not Always “Best”

The debate over breastfeeding should not overshadow the importance of options. A well-nourished child is paramount, as is the mental well-being of postpartum individuals. While breastfeeding is a natural choice for some, it is not an option for everyone. Some transgender individuals may have undergone surgeries that affect their ability to breastfeed; others may simply find that formula feeding best suits their family’s needs. Any reason for not breastfeeding is valid, and societal pressure surrounding this topic can be overwhelming. Attachment between child and parent can still flourish, regardless of feeding methods.

The language we use has the potential to either invite individuals to share their experiences or alienate them, even if their journeys are similar. It’s essential that our language evolves to encompass the diverse experiences of pregnancy and childbirth.

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In summary, fostering an inclusive and affirming language around pregnancy and childbirth is essential. It ensures that everyone feels valued and respected, regardless of their unique experiences.