I Recently Found ‘Grace And Frankie’ on Netflix, and Their Chaotic Families Are a Breath of Fresh Air

Families can be quite complicated. From the never-ending group chats to the arguments during family gatherings, and the subtle jabs exchanged on vacation — family dynamics are rarely straightforward. Each relationship requires effort and a considerable amount of emotional investment. “Grace and Frankie” offers a glimpse into the kind of familial reality that many of us recognize but often shy away from discussing — the unique messiness that defines our lives. This show encourages us to accept our families, flaws and all.

Beautifully Imperfect Families

Families are beautifully imperfect. When Grace (played by Jane Fonda) discovers that her husband, Robert, and Frankie (Lily Tomlin)’s husband, Sol, have been secretly in love with each other for years, it highlights the imperfections that can exist in any marriage. In the first couple of episodes, these two families grapple with the fallout of their husbands coming out and the ensuing divorce: who will move out, how finances will be managed, and how to break the news to their children.

Robert (Martin Sheen) and Sol (Sam Waterston) portray men who embrace their identities later in life, yet they remain committed to the women who raised their children, including those adopted and one who is Black. I appreciate shows like “Grace and Frankie” for challenging societal boundaries. Who would have thought that women in their 70s could still date, enjoy intimacy, and have a knack for using vibrators? Or that a recovering addict (Frankie’s son, Coyote) could reclaim a place in the family after past troubles? The series shows that forgiveness and co-parenting are possible even with ex-husbands who identify as gay. Grace and Frankie inspire hope that unexpected situations can lead to new possibilities.

Redefining Family

In our society, the idea of “family” is often equated with biology. However, I believe that’s a misconception; family is defined by more than just genetics. Shows like “Grace and Frankie” (and don’t forget “This Is Us”) reveal families that reflect a broader spectrum of experiences, challenging the notion that a traditional family consists solely of a mom, dad, and biological children. “Grace and Frankie” illustrates that family can take many forms, encompassing various lifestyles and colors, and yes, every family has its share of dysfunction. These narratives are important, and we should continue to engage with them.

Character Development and Humor

The show spans six seasons, and while I’m currently on season three, it’s clear that the writing and character development resonate with many viewers. We can likely identify aspects of our own families within the characters. For instance, Grace struggles with alcoholism, a reality she confronts after an embarrassing encounter involving her motorized scooter and a cop. Frankie embodies the free-spirited artist, dedicated to helping others, whether through art classes for ex-convicts or caring for her grandchild.

Moreover, the series demonstrates that humor can be a powerful coping mechanism when family issues arise. Here are some memorable quotes that are sure to elicit laughter:

“Everybody needs to toughen up and get me resurrected before I really lose my shit!” – Frankie
“Hope is overrated.” – Grace
“I’m just like you but with a better personality.” – Frankie

Tackling Difficult Conversations

Grace and Frankie are unafraid to tackle uncomfortable subjects, even in front of their kids. They don’t shy away from tough conversations or sugarcoat their experiences. Grace turns to drinking, while Frankie immerses herself in art as their respective coping strategies. Watching this entertaining train wreck unfold, we can see reflections of ourselves in each character.

We don’t have to mirror Grace or Frankie to recognize the necessity of having difficult conversations within families. No matter how messy things get, brighter days are ahead. Frankie’s quip about the challenges of life serves as a reminder that even when times are tough, friends and family stand by us. I’ll keep watching “Grace and Frankie” because their chaotic family dynamics resonate with my own experiences and those of many others.

Summary

“Grace and Frankie” on Netflix presents a refreshing take on family dynamics, showcasing the beautiful messiness that defines relationships. The show highlights the importance of acceptance, humor, and the diverse forms that family can take, encouraging viewers to embrace their unique family situations.