I Don’t Believe My Kids Are Unique Snowflakes, But I Won’t Tolerate Disrespect Towards Them

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My son always messages me to let me know he’s on his way home, prompting me to start dinner. A few weeks ago, while I was busy in the kitchen following his text, I heard a woman screaming outside. Since I hadn’t noticed his car arriving, I was puzzled.

When I looked out the window, I saw my son still in his car, and a woman from down the street yelling at him. Her face was flushed, and her voice was nearly a scream.

I heard my son acknowledge that he was speeding and apologize. When I stepped outside to see what was happening, the woman quickly left the scene.

After speaking with my son, he admitted he was indeed going too fast on our road. “I was going 25 and she waved for me to slow down,” he explained.

I told him that he needed to be more cautious, as safety is paramount.

However, I was taken aback by her intense reaction. I didn’t appreciate how she was screaming at my son, especially when he was calmly looking her in the eye and apologizing.

When I later spoke to this woman, who doesn’t have kids, it became evident that her anger stemmed from her strong feelings about my son’s driving. I told her that I agreed with her concerns about safety, and I appreciated her speaking up, but I felt her tone was unwarranted.

This was the first time she had ever interacted with my son, and he had never been cited for speeding before. If she had approached him with, “You were going too fast, and I’m concerned about the safety of our road, so please slow down,” that would have resonated more with his 18-year-old mind than her yelling.

She rolled her eyes at me, indicating that she believed children should automatically respect adults. Yet, she wasn’t demonstrating any respectful behavior herself. It felt as if she was frustrated because we weren’t intimidated by her.

Most parents are open to feedback when their children misbehave. I’m not shy about acknowledging that my kids can be difficult. They test boundaries, they aren’t perfect, and they do make mistakes.

However, that doesn’t mean I want strangers disrespecting them or yelling at them. The days of assuming children must submit to adults’ authority without question are long gone.

It’s unacceptable to speak to them in a way that one wouldn’t tolerate being spoken to, simply because they are younger. It’s also wrong to become furious when they assert themselves.

I refuse to stand by and allow anyone to disrespect my kids and act aggressively simply because they think they hold power over them. If I don’t advocate for my children, they won’t learn to advocate for themselves. They would think that the proper response to aggressive individuals is to yield and let them walk all over them.

My son was polite and doesn’t enjoy confrontation. He acknowledged his mistake without hesitation. Is he perfect? No, and there needs to be more understanding around children and their errors. This doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be consequences or discussions. And rest assured, a little more understanding won’t lead to parents believing their children are flawless or that those who point out their mistakes are delusional.

It simply means treating them with the same respect we expect when we make mistakes ourselves. Just because they’re kids doesn’t mean they should be belittled or subjected to disrespectful treatment.

Feel free to try to treat them that way, but this generation of parents—and this protective mama bear in particular—won’t stand for it.

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In summary, it’s essential to advocate for our children’s respect and dignity, even when they make mistakes. They should be treated with the same courtesy we expect for ourselves, and as parents, we must be their voice in the face of disrespect.


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