I’m a ‘Grumpy Spoilsport’ Who Disdains Pranks and Teasing, and I’m Unapologetic About It

Most people refer to it as “teasing” or “practical jokes,” but to me, it feels more like “antagonism” or, in some instances, “emotional abuse.” I’ve been labeled as “overly sensitive” and “uptight” for my views on pranks, with people telling me to “loosen up” or “take a joke.” However, I firmly stand by my beliefs. I genuinely despise pranks that require someone to feel deeply distressed for the “humor” to land.

From Ashton Kutcher’s early 2000s MTV series, “Punk’d,” to elaborate April Fools’ Day gags, prank phone calls, and teasing someone about a quirky trait — I’m not a fan of any of it.

I vividly recall being a young teenager, riding in my mom’s car, listening to a local DJ prank an unsuspecting individual. For example, they’d pose as a doctor’s office informing a man that his wife was pregnant, despite him having undergone a vasectomy. These calls often made the recipient furious, sometimes even leading to tears. Every time I heard one of these pranks, my heart raced with sympathy. Am I the only one who doesn’t find this amusing? I always felt empathy for the person being pranked. Even when the prank aimed to teach a lesson, such as highlighting irrational jealousy or protectiveness, I still felt bad for the victim.

Often, the targets would laugh in relief once the DJ revealed the prank, but many just hung up, clearly angry for being made a fool. I never enjoyed watching “Punk’d” for the same reason. While I don’t mind lighthearted April Fools’ jokes, I disapprove of those that hinge on someone’s embarrassment or distress.

I also dislike casual teasing where someone tries to trick another into believing something horrible, pushing them until they’re convinced, only to reveal it was all a “joke.” For instance, claiming a pet is lost or that a child has failed their classes — just kidding! Why is any of this funny?

I find it unacceptable to humiliate someone or make them feel frustrated, sad, or angry for laughs. Criticizing someone and then claiming it’s a joke isn’t teasing; it’s gaslighting. Despite being labeled as “no fun” or “uptight” for refusing to partake in the sport of other people’s discomfort, I don’t see myself as a spoilsport. My partner affectionately teases me, and I never take offense. My kids and I occasionally joke with each other, but we ensure it’s lighthearted. For example, when my son was close to getting an A in a class, I jokingly told him he received a B, but once I saw his reaction, I quickly reassured him that it was just a joke and praised his hard work.

We understand the difference between affectionate teasing and mean-spirited digs. We gauge each other’s moods and know when to stop. I acknowledge that some groups have an unspoken agreement about pranks, where everyone is in on the fun. In those cases — because of consent — prank away. It’s not my place to interfere.

However, if you attempt to prank me knowing I dislike them, it won’t end well. I assure you neither of us will enjoy it. You might even find yourself cut from my life. Consent is crucial, and making someone feel bad for your amusement is simply wrong. If that labels me as an uptight stick in the mud, feel free to make a sign and tape it to my back when I’m not looking, but don’t expect me to keep talking to you afterwards.

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Summary:

This piece expresses a strong disdain for pranks and teasing that hinge on someone else’s discomfort or distress. The author shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of empathy, consent, and understanding in humor. While they acknowledge that some social circles enjoy pranks, they firmly believe that making someone feel bad for amusement is unacceptable. The article ultimately advocates for a kinder approach to humor and relationships.