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My journey through motherhood while raising children of color in a predominantly white society has illuminated how parenting narratives often prioritize white experiences. Almost three years ago, I found myself concerned that my biracial one-year-old might have chicken pox, so I turned to Google for answers. I searched for terms like “Chicken Pox,” “Chicken Pox in babies,” and even “Chicken Pox on dark skin.” Unfortunately, the results primarily featured images of the classic rash on white children’s skin. As many parents of Black and Brown children know, rashes and skin conditions can appear quite different on darker skin tones.
While Google is a popular tool for answering parenting questions, it fell short in this instance. After being disappointed by the lack of relevant images, I reached out to two friends for their insights: one a white mother of biracial boys and the other a Black mother of a mixed-race child. I remembered that both had dealt with chicken pox, and their children shared skin tones similar to my daughter’s. They both confirmed my suspicion about the rash, with one even sharing a photo of her child’s chicken pox that looked strikingly similar to my daughter’s.
Initially, a white pharmacist dismissed my concerns, suggesting it was an allergic reaction instead of chicken pox. However, a Black doctor later confirmed it was indeed the pox. Unfortunately, this wasn’t an isolated incident. During a postpartum checkup for my son, a doctor mistook a blue-grey birthmark on my son’s tailbone for a bruise, a common error since these birthmarks are more prevalent in babies of African and Asian descent than in white infants. Such misdiagnoses can lead to serious implications, including potential child welfare interventions.
It’s disheartening to realize that a healthcare system might limit my children’s access to quality care based on their skin color, which is a reflection of a broader systemic bias. It’s not just about chicken pox; it raises serious questions about the adequacy of medical care for children of color.
I have hesitated to share these experiences directly with white mothers because, in past conversations, I’ve encountered instances of white parents attempting to relate their experiences to mine in ways that inadvertently center whiteness. For instance, one mother compared her child being called “ginger” to my daughter being called a racial slur, missing the significant cultural context of the latter.
These experiences won’t surprise Black and Brown parents, but it’s crucial for white parents and professionals in supportive roles to acknowledge these disparities. We must shift the focus away from white-centric parenting narratives. While these anecdotes are just a small piece of a larger issue of racism, I’m simply trying to ensure my children can navigate the world with some measure of safety and access to equitable care.
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