6 Important Lessons I Learned in My First Year of Motherhood

It’s hard to believe that nearly a year has passed since we welcomed our little bundle of joy. Time has a peculiar way of standing still while racing by all at once. While some days feel never-ending, the years seem to slip away in an instant as a new mom. This past year has been a whirlwind of love, laughter, exhaustion, sleepless nights, and overwhelming gratitude, creating some of the most cherished moments of our lives.

As we prepare to celebrate Ava’s first birthday, I find myself reflecting on our journey together. I recognize that it’s during this first year that babies begin to form their understanding of the world, determining if it’s a safe and welcoming place. I often wonder if I’ve done enough for her or taught her all that she needs to know. However, the truth is that we are the ones learning from her, and not the other way around.

Here are the most valuable lessons my little girl has imparted to me in our first year together:

1. Embrace the Full Spectrum of Emotions.

It’s perfectly fine to laugh until you cry and cry until you laugh. All emotions are valid. Watching Ava express her feelings—both the joyful and the challenging—has reminded me how important it is to embrace every emotion without filtering them. As adults, we often stifle our feelings to adhere to societal norms, but Ava teaches me that it’s healthy to experience a range of emotions, including sadness and anger.

2. The Present Moment is All That Matters.

Babies live in the moment. If something upsets them, they can switch to happiness in a heartbeat. As a new mom, I often find myself overwhelmed with worries about the future. Yet, when I take time to play with Ava, I realize the beauty of being fully present. She doesn’t stress about what’s next; instead, she revels in the here and now, reminding me to do the same.

3. Find Joy in the Smallest Things.

Before becoming a mom, I feared I wouldn’t have the patience to enjoy seemingly mundane activities like playing with a rattle. However, I’ve discovered the magic in the little things—pointing out trees, smelling flowers, or simply watching Ava delight in the world around her. She finds beauty in everything, teaching me to appreciate life’s simple pleasures.

4. Persistence is Key.

Have you ever seen a baby give up? They may get frustrated learning to crawl or talk, but they never stop trying. This relentless determination is a powerful lesson in resilience. Babies keep pushing forward, and eventually, they achieve milestones we often take for granted.

5. Prioritize Presence Over Perfection.

Your baby doesn’t care if your house is clean or if there are chores on your to-do list. What matters most is your presence. Before Ava, I thought I was busy, but nothing compares to the demands of motherhood. I’ve learned to make time for what truly matters—play, laughter, and snuggles—because they are the moments that create lasting memories.

6. We are Born from Love.

From the moment we enter this world, we are filled with love. Babies instinctively seek comfort and connection. They experience emotions freely and without reservation, and they forgive quickly. This openness serves as a reminder of our innate capacity for love and joy, which can often become clouded by life’s pressures as we grow older.

Perhaps if we open our hearts and minds, we can see that our children come into our lives not just for us to teach them, but for them to impart invaluable lessons to us.

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In summary, my first year of motherhood has been a transformative journey filled with lessons about emotions, presence, and the beauty of life. Ava has taught me to embrace every moment, find joy in the little things, and understand the essence of love.