As I call my son back into the kitchen, I’m met with a scene of chaos: a half-open bag of bagels, cream cheese oozing from its foil, and crumbs scattered around the toaster. “What?” he asks, his eyes wide with innocence. I simply reply, “Look around.” Moments later, he realizes the mess and apologizes before cleaning it up.
This scene is all too familiar whenever my son prepares food or shifts things around. I’ve learned to encourage him to notice what needs to be done without giving explicit instructions. Over time, he’s started to take more initiative.
Initially, I would provide detailed chore lists for tasks like cleaning the bathroom, breaking down each step. Now, I simply say, “Clean the bathroom,” allowing him to figure out how to accomplish that on his own. My son, who has ADHD, often forgets to tidy or organize, but I don’t expect perfection. He shines in other areas, and that’s okay.
However, I refuse to raise a son who grows up to be that man who “doesn’t see the mess” or thinks he can simply wait to be told what needs to be done. It’s vital that we teach our kids the concept of invisible labor—the awareness of what needs to be done in a household and the initiative to take action.
While many parents focus on teaching kids how to perform certain household tasks, we often overlook the emotional labor that accompanies these tasks. This is particularly relevant in cisgender-heterosexual relationships, where women frequently find themselves managing household duties even when both partners work full-time.
Instead of perpetuating the cycle of invisible labor, imagine if we taught our sons to recognize when the trash needs to be taken out or when the laundry needs to be moved. If they grew up with these expectations, it could change the dynamic in their future relationships.
Chore lists are helpful, but we also need to instill the habit of assessing a space and identifying what can be improved. This doesn’t come naturally to everyone, and it’s crucial that we actively teach it to our kids. I’ve been encouraging my son to leave a room better than he found it and to be mindful of how he can contribute.
This life lesson is invaluable and will serve him well in the future. If we can teach our children to take on this invisible labor, we are setting them up for healthier relationships and a greater sense of responsibility.
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In summary, teaching our children about invisible household labor is essential for fostering responsibility and awareness in their future relationships. By encouraging them to assess their surroundings and take initiative, we can help ensure they contribute positively to their households.
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