As I sat folding laundry, my partner, Alex, suddenly remarked, “They’ve grown so much!” His expression was one of disbelief, but growth doesn’t happen overnight. I could see the astonishment in his eyes as he searched for clarity.
“I can’t pinpoint when it happened,” he added, bewildered.
But I could. Like many significant transitions in life, this one unfolded gradually over years. While Alex might have come to this realization just now, I had sensed it long before. During our quiet moments filled with mundane tasks, we often reminisced about the days when our children were small. It was a bittersweet nostalgia that seemed to affect us differently.
“I used to cradle them in my palm, those minuscule beings,” he sighed. “Are they truly gone forever?”
“Don’t be so theatrical,” I replied.
“I just miss those times,” he said, a hint of sadness in his voice.
“I understand, but let’s be honest; those days were pretty exhausting.”
“Really? You found them annoying?” he asked, surprised.
“Absolutely! Can we finally admit that? For some, motherhood comes naturally, but for me, it was a daily challenge. Every sleepless night with tiny humans was a test of patience.”
He looked at me, puzzled. “But they were so cute!”
“Sure, but they also demanded constant attention!”
“I know you see it differently, but I long for those moments.” He turned his gaze away, lost in thought.
“I get that,” I said. “But they kept waking me up at night. Ugh.” I rolled my eyes, remembering the chaos.
“They woke me up too.” He offered a small grin.
“Do we need them to find happiness? Were they the glue holding us together?” I questioned.
“No, not at all! They just added a certain zest to our lives back then,” he mused.
“Maybe for you. For me, it’s all a blur now.”
“I remember everything,” he insisted.
“Really? What about the expenses?”
“Like they aren’t a concern now?” he retorted.
Our eyes met in a shared silence, as he seemed determined to convince me. “We could always start anew,” he suggested playfully. “How about another batch?”
I quickly rejected the idea. “Absolutely not! Have you seen these stretch marks?” I sighed. “Those days are behind us. To be brutally honest, I didn’t even want our last two children! They were a momentary decision to please you, and now I feel nothing but regret.”
“Take that back!” he demanded.
“I wish I could take them back!” I was firm.
His expression shifted—confusion masked by disappointment.
I reached out to him, softening my tone. “We can’t dwell on the past. We must cherish the memories and the joy they brought us.”
“I do have photographs,” he replied, somewhat earnestly.
“Oh, please don’t tell me you’re tearing up again?” I teased.
“Not exactly, but I do get emotional when I look back at those times.”
I squeezed his hands gently, trying to bridge our understanding. “I know this transition is significant for both of us, but I’m happier now. Can’t you see that?”
“Significant,” he echoed.
“Yes, but it was time to move on,” I explained.
He stared at the laundry, seemingly lost in thought.
“By the way, I’m over 40 now,” I reminded him.
“So what? I’ve seen women much older—”
I interrupted him. “As a man, you may never grasp my feelings. I’m done! You weren’t the one caring for little ones for years. Now, it’s a relief! They hug me now, rather than cling to me endlessly. I’m comfortable with how things are. I know you may feel differently, but I’m not sorry for finally feeling… free!”
He attempted a smile, but I sensed he still didn’t quite understand. “You’ve always had that freedom. What I need from you is compassion and support—regardless of how you feel.”
He looked at me with a mix of resignation and understanding.
As he retrieved a pair of my oversized granny panties from the laundry basket, he chuckled and wiped a tear with them. “I suppose the saying is true: they truly are only little once.”
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