Ask Home Insemination Kit: My 10-Year-Old Prefers Spending Time with Me Over Friends

Welcome to the Home Insemination Kit advice column, where our team provides insight on parenting and various life challenges.

This week, we’re tackling the issue of a clingy child.

Dear Home Insemination Kit,

Lately, my 10-year-old son, Liam, has become quite attached to me. It’s not bothersome in a negative way, yet it raises some concerns for me. He’s showing little interest in playing with his friends and seems less enthusiastic about the upcoming school year. I initially thought this was just a phase related to the pandemic, which makes sense given everything we’ve been through, but I worry that he might be struggling more than he lets on. He enjoys hanging out with me, reading together and watching films, and only goes outside to play alone. He’s eager to accompany me on errands and constantly asks when I’ll return from outings. Shouldn’t he be engaging with his peers more? I cherish our time together, but I can’t help but feel anxious.

Honestly, after the past few years we’ve all experienced, your concerns are completely valid. While kids are remarkably resilient, they often bear the emotional weight of trauma in ways we might not see. The pandemic has substantially altered their lives, and that’s no small feat to adjust to.

Clinginess in children can stem from various factors and is often linked to significant stress or trauma. This could range from changes in their routine to the anxiety of seeing illness and loss around them. You seem to be a supportive parent, so I don’t believe overprotection is the issue here. Yet, given how much has changed, it’s understandable that your son would seek comfort in your presence.

It’s also possible that he simply enjoys being at home, finding solace in familiar surroundings. To help ease his anxiety, consider practicing small separations. You might leave the house briefly without making a fuss—just inform him where you’re headed and when you’ll return. Consistency can help him feel secure.

My own approach with my child involves a simple “goodbye ritual,” where we hug, wave, and I give a little honk as I leave. This predictability can make all the difference.

As school resumes, he may gradually re-engage with his peers. If you try these strategies and still feel concerned, therapy could be beneficial for both of you. A professional can offer coping tools that might assist in these transitions.

Best of luck, and remember that your bond is a true blessing.

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In summary, it’s normal for children to seek comfort during unsettling times. Implement gradual separations, establish routines, and consider professional support if needed. Your connection with your son is invaluable, and with patience, he may find his way back to embracing friendships.