From a Black, Queer Birthworker: How to Create Inclusive Lactation Spaces for Black Families

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Trigger Warning: Discussions of trauma related to Black bodies, racism, homophobia, transphobia, queerphobia, microaggressions, and colonization.

Feeding our infants can take many forms: breastfeeding, chestfeeding, body feeding, or simply infant feeding. Regardless of the terminology, the essence remains the same.

In recent years, there has been a significant push to highlight the importance of lactation within Black communities, particularly during Black Breastfeeding Week. Yet, many continue to use binary language—terms like “mother,” “mama,” “daddy,” and “breast”—without recognizing that these labels can alienate Black individuals who do not identify with these cisgender and heteronormative terms.

We in the Black community are actively advocating for awareness about how predominantly white-led lactation spaces can perpetuate unsafe practices due to issues like classism and racism. It’s infuriating to see the continued presence of anti-Blackness, particularly when others claim to support the idea that Black lives matter.

Moreover, homophobia and transphobia are also prevalent within our communities. Picture a Black queer or trans individual grappling with concerns about low milk supply or dealing with medical issues like lip or tongue ties, all while facing judgment from lactation professionals who may not understand their identity.

I speak from both personal and professional experiences. During my own journey seeking lactation support, I faced discrimination as a Black queer, nonbinary parent from both white and Black lactation professionals. It was heartbreaking to navigate my identity while struggling to find the support I needed as a single parent. I was often dismissed or ridiculed for voicing my preferences regarding how I wished to be addressed.

I recall overhearing comments from nursing staff that belittled my identity, mocking my request not to be called “mama” or “mommy.” In a time when I was physically and emotionally drained from a traumatic birthing experience, I lacked the energy to confront them about their disrespectful behavior. Black individuals have a long history of being subjected to ridicule and dehumanization, and this is compounded for those of us who identify as queer or trans.

Statistics reveal that Black queer and trans individuals face more discrimination and trauma than those from other communities of color, primarily due to the scarcity of accessible resources that provide inclusive care. The absence of understanding around intersectionality within marginalized communities only exacerbates these challenges.

It’s crucial to acknowledge that Black queer and trans individuals who are also disabled or come from nontraditional family structures face even more barriers. These experiences highlight the pressing need for inclusive practices in lactation support.

In the spirit of Black Breastfeeding Week, it’s essential to recognize what inclusivity and affirmation look like in lactation spaces. As a professional in this field, I draw from my own experiences to educate others about the barriers faced by marginalized Black bodies, especially those in the LGBTQIA+ community. I am determined to shed light on the shortcomings in lactation support and to advocate for better practices.

To support Black individuals in lactation, consider the following actions:

1. Examine Your Biases: Take the time to research Black queer and trans perinatal professionals, as well as support networks like The Queer Doula Network and organizations that uplift Black lactating individuals.
2. Dismantle Binary Narratives: Pay individuals in this field fairly for their expertise. The historical exploitation of Black bodies in medical contexts serves as a reminder of the importance of equitable practices.
3. Practice Active Listening: Understand that storytelling is vital in our community. Focus on what individuals express rather than just completing assessments.
4. Be Mindful of Language: Recognize that not everyone identifies as a “mother” or “mama.” Repeatedly using these terms can alienate many individuals. Use the language that aligns with their identity.
5. Commit to Ongoing Education: Acknowledge your privilege and actively seek to learn how to better serve the community.

By addressing our biases and dismantling harmful narratives, we can foster a more inclusive lactation environment that promotes healing and support for all.

For additional insights into creating inclusive spaces for families, check out other resources like this article on home insemination and this informative guide on couples’ fertility journeys. For further reading on pregnancy and home insemination, visit CCRM IVF’s blog.