Welcome to the Home Insemination Kit advice column, where our team is here to help you navigate the challenges of parenting, relationships, and more. This week, we tackle a common issue: dealing with family opinions about your child’s pacifier use.
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
My daughter is three and a half and still uses her pacifier. Honestly, I don’t think she’s ready to give it up just yet. She eats and drinks normally and is hitting all her developmental milestones, so I don’t see it as a hindrance. It’s just a source of comfort for her, and I don’t want to take it away since it isn’t causing any issues. However, my mother-in-law insists that she’s too old for it. Whenever she sees my daughter with it, she either takes it away or says, “You’re too big to be a binky baby.” It really annoys me, and I’m starting to feel like I don’t want her around my daughter anymore. How can I get her to keep her opinions to herself and let my daughter enjoy her pacifier?
First off, let’s clear this up: according to pediatric guidelines, it’s perfectly fine for kids to use a pacifier up to four years old. Your daughter is still well within this range. You could also tell your mother-in-law, “Thanks for your thoughts on my parenting, but I’m the one raising her.” This is your child, and her comfort is what matters most, not anyone else’s opinions—even if they come from a grandparent.
Consider how your daughter feels about her pacifier. For her, it’s a comfort item, and taking it away abruptly because someone deems it inappropriate could be distressing. Your mother-in-law may not realize this, but her comments and actions aren’t helpful. It’s essential to communicate that her judgment is unwelcome. Reinforce that your parenting choices are yours to make, and kindly ask her to stop commenting on your daughter’s pacifier use.
Research suggests that most children naturally stop using pacifiers between ages two and four, so she may outgrow it on her own. If you want to encourage her to use it less, you could try redirecting her attention when she asks for it or altering the pacifier so it feels different.
Ultimately, your daughter won’t be heading off to college with a pacifier in her mouth! Your mother-in-law has already raised her children, and now it’s your turn to make the choices that suit your family best.
If you’re interested in exploring more about family planning, check out this helpful article on home insemination and consider resources from Make a Mom, who provide valuable insights on this topic. For additional information on family-building options, Resolve.org offers excellent resources.
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In summary, it’s essential to prioritize your child’s comfort while also addressing family opinions. Establish boundaries with your mother-in-law, and remember that you are in charge of your parenting choices.
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