Reading has always been a cherished part of my daily routine with my children, serving as a primary way we bond and foster our connection. Whether it’s during car rides, at dinner, or while playing games, we often find pockets of quality time together. However, there’s something uniquely comforting about curling up with a book that allows us to escape drama and simply enjoy each other’s presence.
My twins are 8, and my eldest is 10. I’ve been reading to them since they were infants, and our collection ranges from board books and picture books to chapter books and graphic novels, all of which clutter their bookshelves and bedside tables. I read to my twins together; although their interests align, they each have their own preferences, leading to some negotiation to pick the perfect bedtime story. My eldest daughter and I have journeyed through countless book series based on my recommendations. Lately, they’ve started reading on their own some nights, which has shifted our nighttime routine a bit.
I truly value the connection we share during our evening storytime, and I find myself missing it when they choose to read solo. I long for the laughter and chatter that fills the space when we’re sharing stories. Yet, I also feel immense pride in their growing independence. On those nights when they read by themselves, I often find my own book to read or listen to. However, after an enlightening conversation with my daughter, I’ve decided to read along with her quietly, nestled right beside her.
My 10-year-old daughter recently expressed her eagerness to dive into the Warriors book series, which I had encouraged her to explore weeks prior. We’ve previously enjoyed titles like Animal Inn and Harry Potter together, and she typically has me read them aloud first before she tackles them on her own. But this time, she wanted to read the Warriors series independently, featuring clans of wild cats living by a warrior code. Although I was a bit let down that we wouldn’t be experiencing it together, I was thrilled she was branching out.
As she immersed herself in the first book, she couldn’t contain her excitement, wanting to discuss the plot with me, despite my unfamiliarity with the storyline. “You can read it too!” she exclaimed, realizing it would allow us to connect again. Admittedly, I wasn’t particularly keen on spending my reading time on wild cats. Still, I recognized the importance of our shared literary connection, so I quickly downloaded the book and listened to it while cooking and even as I drifted off to sleep. We ended up reading the second book side by side—she with a physical copy while I listened via my Libby app.
I could see how much it meant to her that we could converse about the story, even if we experienced it separately. I’ve done this with my twins as well, tackling titles like Diary of a Wimpy Kid. While not my first choice, if it means I can engage in discussions about their beloved stories, it’s worth it. I still read to my kids more often than not, but this new approach keeps our nightly bonding intact.
I know there will come a time when they may only want a quick goodnight hug, or they might feel embarrassed about sharing their interests with me. I won’t impose too much on their personal explorations, but as long as they welcome my involvement, I’ll continue to connect through the world of books. I may not be prying into their journals or personal notes, but I make no promises against discovering their interests through a little literary sleuthing. I anticipate we’ll still have meaningful conversations about the stories we share. If I have to leave subtle hints through my book exploration, so be it.
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In summary, reading has become an essential tool for nurturing my relationship with my children, allowing for connection and conversation even as they grow more independent. By adapting our reading routine, I ensure that our bond remains strong while supporting their individual interests.
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