I’m Approaching 40 and Eager to Celebrate

In just five months, I’ll be hitting the milestone of 40 years old—the big 4-0! Instead of dwelling on regrets or pushing myself to get fitter—which seems to be the norm—I’m genuinely excited. Turning 40 feels like a momentous occasion to be celebrated, not dreaded. For me, age signifies more than just a number; it’s a milestone worthy of recognition.

Facing Challenges

Part of my excitement stems from the challenges I’ve faced over the last fifteen years. I’ve navigated some serious health battles, including a life-threatening experience that, fortunately, led to a diagnosis instead of an untimely end. After living with type 1 diabetes for twelve years, I discovered a lump in my breast. Initially, the scans gave me hope, but a biopsy confirmed early-stage breast cancer. Following a mastectomy and extensive therapy, I was regaining my strength when I found out about a recurrence of the cancer.

I recently completed twelve rounds of chemotherapy and immunotherapy and am now undergoing radiation therapy. To say this past year has been challenging is an understatement. However, I am incredibly grateful to be alive and in recovery. My experiences have taught me that reaching 40 is a blessing—especially when I reflect on how close I came to not seeing it at all.

Embracing Confidence

As I age, I’ve noticed a boost in my confidence. I know what I want in life and am unafraid to pursue it, regardless of others’ opinions. Decision-making has become easier; I tend to trust my instincts. I wear what I like and embrace my style, which often includes various shades of grey. Trends don’t dictate my choices, and that’s perfectly fine with me.

I’ve also stopped weighing myself, realizing that how I feel is far more important than a number. I don’t scrutinize my reflection for every flaw; instead, I cherish my body for what it has endured. My stretch marks and scars tell my story, and I choose to speak kindly to myself about my appearance.

Living Authentically

As I approach 40, I’ve decided to stop seeking approval from others. Life is too short to worry about what others think; I’m here to live my life as I see fit. If someone disapproves of my choices, that’s their issue, not mine. Each of us has enough going on that the choices of others, as long as they aren’t harmful, should be none of our concern. Rejecting criticism feels liberating.

I’m also committed to my values and passions. I prioritize women’s health, advocating for self-advocacy in medical settings, reminding women to perform self-breast exams and schedule mammograms. I don’t shy away from discussing sensitive topics like breast health, and I certainly don’t seek approval from anyone who might be uncomfortable.

Building Stronger Relationships

I’ve developed a stronger sense of discernment regarding negativity. I no longer tolerate pettiness and am willing to stand up against racism, sexism, ableism, and other prejudices. My children are always observing and learning, and I want to model standing up for what is right and being compassionate while also being assertive.

Over the years, I’ve become a more loyal friend but have also learned to let go of relationships that drain me. Friendship breakups don’t have to be dramatic; it’s perfectly acceptable to move forward quietly. Not every friend is a lifelong companion, and I understand my needs in a friendship.

Finding Joy in Stability

On the relationship front, my husband and I have settled into a comfortable routine, and I absolutely love it. The stability and honesty in our marriage provide a sense of peace, allowing us to embrace each other’s quirks.

Lately, I’ve been diving into nonfiction, enjoying the journey of self-discovery. Have you ever explored the enneagram? It’s intriguing! I’ve learned that my decisiveness has its advantages, and I’m working on becoming more vulnerable and tackling my anxiety. I’m motivated to grow and improve myself.

Looking Ahead

Stepping into my true self has made me see that turning 40 is an exhilarating prospect, not a daunting one. If I’ve achieved so much in the last decade despite the challenges, just imagine what lies ahead in the next ten years. Only time—our most precious resource—will reveal the possibilities.

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In summary, as I prepare to turn 40, I embrace the journey of self-discovery and growth that comes with age. Rather than fearing the future, I look forward to the adventures and experiences that await me.