Just over five years ago, my teenage daughter entered my room and asked, “Mom, can we talk?” She had been grappling silently with depression for some time, and finally found the courage to share her struggles with us. So much has changed since that pivotal moment—it’s incredible how transformative it can be when you discover support, bravery, and the right words to communicate with those who care for you.
In the years following, we became passionate advocates for mental health, working to dismantle the stigma surrounding depression, anxiety, and related issues. We want others to know that they are not alone and to encourage open conversations to prevent further silent suffering.
When I share our story publicly, many people inquire about what helped us heal—what unfolded after that night when my daughter revealed her depression. While I’m not a therapist, I am a mother who has navigated this journey with my child, and I’m eager to share what proved beneficial for our family, hoping it can assist yours too.
1. Therapy
We sought therapy for my daughter, my partner, and myself. While it can be costly and time-consuming to find the right therapist, this was undoubtedly the best decision we made. If your child were physically injured or seriously ill, you would seek out the best medical professionals—mental health is no different. Finding someone who fits well with your family is crucial. Therapy provides a safe space to discuss feelings without judgment, which is a sign of strength, not weakness. Your child’s pediatrician might be able to recommend a mental health professional who works with young people.
One parent I met suggested an annual “checkup” with a therapist for her kids, similar to visits to the pediatrician. I love this idea! It normalizes discussions about mental health and provides children with a familiar person to turn to when they need support.
2. Medication
Consulting an experienced physician about medication options is worth exploring. We understood that finding the right balance might involve trial and error and required patience. If a trusted doctor suggests medication for a physical condition, you would likely follow through—this should apply to mental health as well. Sometimes, medication can provide just enough relief to allow you to start developing coping mechanisms. It can help alleviate the sadness and help you feel again.
3. Open Communication
If only we could read our children’s minds and feel their pain, our journeys would be so much easier. Starting the conversation was just the beginning; we had to learn how to support her effectively. We all needed to articulate our thoughts because we hadn’t practiced it before. My daughter often felt conflicted about her feelings, believing she “should be happy” despite her struggles. Once we opened up, she could express her confusion, leading to many honest discussions about her depression.
4. Using Memes
We wanted to check in on her emotional state without bombarding her with repetitive questions. I turned to the internet for memes about depression that resonated with her. One read, “If you could read my mind, you’d be in tears,” and another said, “Saying ‘I’m tired’ when you’re actually sad.” I’d print them out and leave them in her room, gently asking, “Does this resonate with you?” This sparked conversations and helped us connect on a deeper level.
5. Sharing Inspiration
We sought ways to stay connected throughout our journey. We shared inspiring content we found, such as Shane Koyczan’s “Instructions for a Bad Day.” Watching it together uplifted both of us. We exchanged thoughts and discovered new material, which allowed for ongoing communication.
6. Exploring Music
I made an effort to listen to the music she enjoyed, such as Linkin Park, which echoed her feelings. Understanding her music preferences provided insight into her emotional state. Songs like “I Can See Clearly Now The Rain is Gone” (Hothouse Flowers version) became favorites once she started feeling better.
7. Meditation and Calming Practices
I discovered the app Insight Timer, which helped me find peace and tranquility. My daughter also found meditation beneficial. Taking just a few minutes each day to quiet our minds offered profound healing benefits. Guided meditations worked well for me, while others might find solace in nature or walking their dog.
8. Community Resources
We explored websites like The Mighty and NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness), which connected us with uplifting communities. Finding a group that resonates with you can be incredibly helpful.
9. Self-Forgiveness
As parents, we often search for someone to hold accountable, usually blaming ourselves. I struggled with guilt, questioning whether I could have prevented her suffering. It was painful to think I might have contributed to her struggles. I learned that holding onto this guilt was counterproductive.
10. Acceptance of Uncertainty
I prefer knowing that everything will be okay, but our situation didn’t allow for that certainty. Learning to be comfortable with the unknown was challenging, but necessary. Gradually, my daughter began to express feelings like, “I feel again” and “It doesn’t seem so dark anymore.” Seeing her share her story through a photo when she left for college was a pivotal moment in our journey.
I hope our experiences can support your family. Remember, you are not alone. There is hope and love waiting for you; all it takes is that first step to reach out for help. If you are the one offering support, listen with intention and assure your loved one that you will be there for them throughout their journey.
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Summary
This article outlines ten essential strategies that helped a family navigate the challenges of depression after a teenage daughter opened up about her struggles. Key elements include seeking therapy, considering medication, fostering open communication, using memes for check-ins, sharing inspirational content, connecting through music, practicing meditation, utilizing community resources, forgiving oneself, and accepting uncertainty. The journey emphasizes the importance of support and understanding in overcoming mental health challenges.
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