I’m excited for my sons to explore their sexuality before settling down!
Not too long ago, there was quite a buzz about a show called “Virgin Diaries,” which featured a couple who were committed to staying completely chaste until their wedding night. Not only did they refrain from sex, but they hadn’t even shared a kiss during their entire relationship. It was as if they were saving every moment for the altar. The show decided to share their first kiss, and frankly, it was a cringe-worthy spectacle.
When the pastor gave the signal, the bride lunged at her husband, kissing him with an intensity that was both shocking and awkward. Their brief encounter was hardly romantic and left me wishing for a way to erase that memory. Kudos to the groom for not backing away, and to the bride for being bold in her approach. I can’t imagine how embarrassing it would be to have my first kiss filmed for posterity. Mine was during a lovely moonlit stroll after a pizza party—perfect in my memory, but captured on camera, I would have been an awkward seventh-grader with cheese in my retainer.
I truly wonder why anyone would want their G-rated first experience broadcast to the world. The reactions from the audience were mixed; some found it amusing while others, like me, were mortified. It was evident that the couple was on different wavelengths. The bride proclaimed the kiss was worth the 27-year wait, while the groom seemed bewildered by the sudden onslaught of affection.
The Importance of Exploration
As a mother, I should perhaps advocate for chastity, but I believe the opposite—I want my sons to have plenty of safe sexual experiences before tying the knot. Exploring one’s sexuality is a crucial part of growing up. While self-exploration is one avenue, being with a partner opens up a whole new realm of discovery about desires and identity.
Consider the idea of saving oneself for marriage, only to find that the highly anticipated wedding night falls flat. Many people dream of a perfect wedding, but what if the actual experience doesn’t live up to expectations? The anticipation can lead to unrealistic ideas about what that special night should feel like. If one partner has high hopes and the other is inexperienced, it could lead to a disappointing experience that’s far from the romantic ideal.
Entering a marriage as a virgin means rolling the dice on compatibility in the bedroom. There’s a risk that the chemistry might not be there, which could lead to disillusionment. What if one partner wants an adventurous experience while the other prefers a more subdued approach? It’s essential for both individuals to truly understand their needs and compatibility before making such a significant commitment.
Encouraging Healthy Experiences
That’s why I encourage my boys to have healthy sexual experiences before they walk down the aisle. I don’t broadcast these thoughts daily, nor do I slip notes in their lunches saying “have fun!” I simply want them to explore who they are and what they desire before making lifelong decisions. And honestly, what if they never marry? Should they then live a celibate life?
Among my worries for their futures, their sexual choices don’t top the list. However, I want them to experience love in a healthy way, whatever that may look like for them. After all, isn’t that what we all want for our children?
Resources for Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, I believe it’s crucial for my sons to experience and understand their sexuality before committing to marriage. This exploration is not just about pleasure; it’s a vital part of discovering who they are and what they want in a partner. It’s about preparing for a healthy and fulfilling relationship in the future.
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