As a mother of three, I never imagined feeling lonely. In the early days, I was often so overwhelmed that I didn’t have the energy for anything more — I would ignore phone calls and sometimes retreat upstairs when visitors came by unexpectedly. Yet, despite being surrounded by my children, I often felt a deep sense of isolation. I rarely talked about this with anyone except my then-husband, convincing myself it was all my fault.
I had neglected my social life and missed the companionship of my husband, who was busy running his business. He encouraged me to have a girls’ night out, but I was usually too exhausted. Even simple trips to the store made me feel guilty for not spending time with my family, something I often complained we didn’t have enough of. I felt undeserving of my loneliness, as I was the one isolating myself.
Looking back, I realize my fatigue was a significant factor. Moms continually give their all to everyone around them, leaving little energy for self-care. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and resentment, which can be a dangerous mix. Breaking this cycle is challenging.
However, after speaking with many other mothers, I discovered that I wasn’t alone in my feelings of loneliness, and there’s no need to feel guilty about it. Now that my children are older and less frequently at home, I’ve noticed that my loneliness often surfaces when I feel unrecognized or unappreciated. It’s not merely about having a busy social life; it’s up to me to seek connections and alleviate my loneliness because no one else can do it for me.
In today’s world, heightened by the effects of COVID-19, many of us are experiencing increased loneliness. We are not only exhausted from managing daily responsibilities but have also been isolated from activities and social interactions that once enriched our lives. A survey by the American Osteopathic Association found that 72% of Americans experience loneliness at times — that’s nearly three-quarters of the population.
How to Tackle Loneliness
So how can we tackle this feeling? Dr. Emily Parker, a family medicine specialist, suggests that the overuse of electronics is a significant contributor to our loneliness. She advocates for a “device cleanse” to help rejuvenate our personal connections, as online interactions can’t replace face-to-face relationships.
Dr. Parker also recommends seeking out like-minded individuals through clubs or classes that align with your interests. Connecting with nature can also be beneficial; taking a walk or hike can help clear your mind and lift your spirits. Often, I’ve found joy in simply stepping outside and appreciating the beauty around me.
It’s essential to recognize you’re not alone in this struggle. I felt a wave of relief when a friend shared her experience of feeling isolated despite being surrounded by loved ones. Speaking about your emotions and connecting with others can provide validation and support.
Judith Orloff, a psychiatrist and author, emphasizes the importance of self-connection. She advises that, even in our busy lives, we make time to unwind and indulge in activities we love, even if alone. This doesn’t have to be anything elaborate; sometimes, a warm bath can do wonders.
The University of Chicago suggests jotting down fond memories and reflecting on what you’re grateful for when feelings of loneliness strike. Other effective strategies include volunteering, performing acts of kindness, and even considering getting a pet.
Loneliness is a natural part of life, and while we all experience it, it’s crucial to take proactive steps to address it rather than allowing it to linger and lead to deeper issues like depression. If a walk, a phone call, or volunteering at a local event helps brighten your mood, why not make it a regular part of your routine?
Further Reading
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In summary, loneliness can affect anyone, especially mothers juggling multiple responsibilities. By recognizing these feelings and actively seeking connections with others and ourselves, we can combat loneliness and create a more fulfilling life.
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