Updated: November 21, 2014
Originally Published: June 5, 2010
Recently, I took my daughters, Mia and Sophia, to a local clothing store. They excitedly rummaged through dresses, shirts, skirts, and pants as part of our usual shopping routine. Our typical experience involves grabbing an assortment of clothes and heading to the fitting rooms, where the girls emerge one by one, showcasing their selections like they’re on the most prestigious fashion runway. In the past, I would shower them with compliments, enjoying their delight as they twirled in front of the mirror. However, this outing was markedly different and will forever change how I view these moments.
At just seven years old, Mia is bright, tall, and full of life. Despite my and my partner’s efforts to protect her innocence, she is becoming increasingly aware of societal perceptions. When she stepped out of the dressing room this time, she twirled, but instead of a smile, her expression was one of disappointment. Looking at her reflection, she quietly spelled out, “This dress makes me look F-A-T.” In that moment, I realized that Mia’s innocent view of herself was forever altered; from now on, she would see her body image reflected back at her through a critical lens.
In that dressing room, we discussed the fit of the dress and how a belt might enhance her look. The attendant, witnessing this exchange, kindly offered to fetch some belts for us to try. With the help of her mom, Mia selected a few more outfits, and despite the initial disappointment, she ultimately found some adorable dresses that suited her perfectly.
However, this trip represented much more than just a shopping experience. Years of instilling confidence in Mia—teaching her that her beauty emanates from within, regardless of external opinions—seemed to take a significant hit in that one moment in front of the mirror. With the persistent barrage of idealized images from television, magazines, and social media, it’s no surprise that she has started to take notice of her appearance. Yet, it’s disheartening that such awareness can overshadow a child’s self-esteem.
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In summary, this experience serves as a reminder of the importance of nurturing our children’s self-esteem. By actively engaging in discussions about body image and self-worth, we can help them withstand external pressures and embrace their unique beauty.
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