Thanksgiving is my absolute favorite holiday, no contest. Sharing this special time with my kids makes it even more meaningful. But as much as I adore Thanksgiving, I can’t ignore its complicated history, and I think it’s important to address that with my children. This year, I’m determined to have an honest conversation with them about what Thanksgiving really means—not just the turkey and pumpkin pie. Here’s how I plan to explain it to them.
Understanding the True Narrative
According to cultural educator Mia Torres, parents should start by sharing the truth and providing a richer narrative about Thanksgiving. Kids are insightful and can grasp complex ideas when presented appropriately. Historian Laura White, who specializes in Native American studies, emphasizes that it’s crucial to understand the Wampanoag perspective, as they often get overlooked in traditional narratives. She reminds us that the Wampanoag were cautious about the Puritans, having previously experienced the theft of their resources by people who looked like them.
Relating to Our Children
To help my kids relate, I’ll talk about how nerve-wracking it can be to meet new people, especially those who look and act differently. It’s easy to teach them to be kind, but it’s important for them to understand the deeper emotions behind those interactions.
Focusing on Family and Togetherness
For my six-year-old twins, I want to focus on the idea that holidays are about family and togetherness. Before we gather around the table, we’ll discuss how Thanksgiving originated. Ibram X. Kendi, a prominent scholar, eloquently states that genuine unity starts with honest conversations within our families. Yes, Thanksgiving is about coming together, but it’s also about acknowledging uncomfortable truths.
Engaging with Thanksgiving-Themed Books
To kick off our discussions, we’ll read some Thanksgiving-themed books. My kids love to read, so we’ll find those moments—perhaps during car rides or right after bath time—to explore the holiday’s significance together. If you’re looking for some great reads, check out these options that offer a Native American perspective on Thanksgiving:
- Giving Thanks: A Native American Good Morning Message by Chief Jake Swamp (ages 5-11)
- 1621: A New Look at Thanksgiving by Catherine O’Neill Grace (ages 8-12)
- The Very First Americans by Cara Ashrose (ages 4-8)
- Squanto’s Journey: The Story of the First Thanksgiving by Joseph Bruchac (ages 4-7)
- Four Seasons of Corn: A Winnebago Tradition (We Are Still Here)
- The First Thanksgiving by Linda Hayward (ages 6-8)
Reflecting on Our Country’s Journey
Thanksgiving isn’t just about enjoying a feast; it’s a time to reflect on our country’s journey and the stories of those who still exist today, like the Wampanoag tribe. Bettina Washington, a member of the tribe, reminds us that they are still thriving—modern life for them includes using stoves, just like us.
Engaging with Family
For some families, Thanksgiving is about food and football, while for others, it’s a reminder of a complicated history. Personally, I cherish the opportunity to enjoy a good meal with family, many of whom I only see during this time of year. I hope that as you celebrate Thanksgiving, you take a moment to recognize how far we’ve come as a nation, while also acknowledging the work still ahead. Instead of just sitting in front of the TV, why not engage in a fun trivia game about Thanksgiving or use icebreakers to get everyone sharing stories?
Additional Resources
For more resources, check out the Smithsonian’s Native Knowledge 360º Education Initiative or explore Plymouth 400, created to celebrate the 400th anniversary of the Mayflower’s arrival. You can also discover which tribe’s land you live on with this helpful tool.
Conclusion
In summary, Thanksgiving is a time for reflection, family, and understanding the past while looking forward to a more inclusive future. Whether you’re exploring the holiday’s history through books or engaging with family in meaningful conversations, it’s an opportunity to grow together.
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