Let’s talk about something that’s been bugging me in the parenting and childcare scene: the idea that “please” is the so-called “magic word.” Honestly, it’s time we rethink that notion.
I’m all for a bit of magic in life. I mean, who doesn’t enjoy a good story about wizards or a little bit of sparkle? But the concept that saying “please” will grant you whatever your heart desires? Not so much. I grew up in the ’80s and spent my teenage years in the late ’90s, watching Mr. Rogers and absorbing his lessons on kindness and respect. But the phrase “What’s the magic word?” just doesn’t cut it anymore.
Words are powerful; they stick with us far longer than any physical injury can. So, when I hear that phrase, I can’t help but think about how misleading it is. When my daughter, Emma, asked me about it after her preschool teacher mentioned it, I had to set the record straight.
“Mommy, do I really have to say it to get what I want?” she asked, confused. I told her, “No, sweetie. It’s not about magic. It’s more about being polite. But just saying ‘please’ doesn’t mean you will always get what you want.”
I’ve always encouraged my kids to ask politely, but I refuse to let them believe that manners alone will get them everything. Life is more complicated than that. If they think a simple “please” will magically solve their problems, they’re in for a rude awakening.
Instead, we need to teach them that life is about taking risks and being responsible. Kindness and courtesy are essential, but they don’t guarantee a reward. By reducing every interaction to the use of one word, we risk making their relationships transactional. They might start being nice just to get something, which isn’t the lesson we want to impart.
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In summary, while “please” is a polite word, it’s not a cure-all. We need to guide our kids to understand that kindness isn’t just a means to an end; it’s an essential part of their interactions in the world.
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