I’d ask how you’re doing, but I have a feeling I already know the answer. It’s been about six months since you got your first period and a couple of years since you started wearing a bra. I get it—puberty can be super awkward and uncomfortable, especially with all the comments about your changing body. But guess what? Your body is yours, and it’s perfectly fine just the way it is.
I know you want to look like those supermodels, but you’re unique, and that’s something to celebrate. It might sting right now, but trust me when I say that one day, looking in the mirror won’t make you cringe. You’ve felt that awkwardness before, remember? Like that time in fourth grade when you compared yourself to your friend Mia in front of a mirror? She was taller and leaner, and when she mentioned that her mom thought thigh gaps meant you weren’t “fat,” it stuck with you. Your strong, sturdy legs—once a point of pride—suddenly felt like something to hide.
And then there were those snarky comments from classmates, like when a girl in your class said, “I’m glad I don’t have boobs. They’re just fat.” I remember you trying to stretch your shirt to hide what you couldn’t control. But here’s the thing: as you grow up and experience even more changes, you’re gonna hear a lot more of those comments about your body. It’s frustrating, and I’m sorry I didn’t shield you from that negativity. It’s something I’m still working on overcoming as an adult.
But here’s the good news: your thighs are strong and capable, and they can also be a cozy spot for your future kids. Those stretch marks you once hated? You’ll learn to embrace them. You’ll rock those short shorts without a second thought because you’ll realize that someone out there actually loves those lines you once thought were “fat.” Plus, your body isn’t here for anyone else’s judgment. It’s incredible just as it is. After all, you created two amazing kids, and that’s no small feat!
So what if your thighs rub together when you walk? Or if your stomach folds a bit when you sit? We weren’t raised to judge others for their bodies, so why do it to ourselves? This is the only body we’ve got, so let’s love it, flaws and all.
And if you’re curious about starting a family when you’re older, there are great resources like Make A Mom for at-home insemination and a fantastic community at Make A Mom Facebook Group if you’re looking for a sperm donor. They even have an at-home insemination kit to help you along the way. For more info on the process, check out how it works or read about genetics and IVF for more insights.
So embrace those curves, and don’t let anyone else’s opinions steal your joy. You’re doing great, and you’re only going to get even better.
With love (and thick thighs),
A slightly wiser you
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