I want to take a moment to express that I am not sorry for my decision to work. While some parents may feel regret, I find pride in my choice. When I leave for work each morning, I notice that you don’t cry. Instead, you anticipate the fun that awaits you, and that joy is incredibly important to me. I want you to experience happiness, even when I’m not present.
I am grateful that you count your grandparents—your Grandma Jan, your Grandpa Mike, and Aunt Lisa—among your closest companions. They provide you with love and care every week while I fulfill my professional responsibilities. Many children don’t share such a close bond with their grandparents, and that connection is truly special.
Working allows you to spend quality time with your capable father as well. You are fortunate to have strong relationships with all your caregivers because the more love you receive, the better our lives become. Witnessing both your mother and father share household duties, from cleaning to diaper changes, sets a positive example of teamwork and equality.
I appreciate the moments you get to see us coordinating our schedules, even if we don’t always manage it flawlessly. The time we do spend together is meaningful, and I believe that quality matters more than quantity. It’s essential to be present and engaged when we are together.
Research shows that, as a result of my working, you, my daughter, are more likely to pursue advanced education and have better career opportunities. Additionally, you, my son, will learn to be more involved in child-rearing because of this example. You also have access to a good school district and a spacious backyard, which are advantages I value highly.
Another important aspect is my fulfillment outside of motherhood. I find joy in my career, and a happy, fulfilled parent contributes positively to family life.
That said, I do have my worries. I sometimes fear that you might feel envious of your peers whose mothers are home full-time. I worry about how you will feel when I miss a soccer game or a band concert. The thought that you might need to address any of this in therapy is concerning to me, particularly because I occasionally have to prioritize deadlines over leisure.
I also notice that many of my friends choose to stay at home, which might lead you to think that your mom is alone in her career pursuits. However, nearly 70 percent of mothers with children under 18 are active in the workforce, so we are far from alone in this journey.
Despite my worries, I am immensely grateful. I cherish the fact that you witness your parents defying traditional gender roles, which is crucial for your development. We are fortunate to have family nearby, offering support when needed, a privilege not all parents have. Ultimately, the love we share remains unchanged, as evidenced by the sloppily affectionate goodnight kisses and heartfelt “I love yous” I receive, showing that my working does not diminish our bond.
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In summary, I am not regretful about my decision to work. It offers you unique opportunities and experiences, demonstrates the importance of shared responsibilities, and allows me to maintain my personal fulfillment. While I do have concerns, my gratitude for our family dynamic is paramount.
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