Selecting the Right Mental Health Professional for Your Child

Navigating the Search for Help

Finding the right mental health expert for your child can be a challenging task, especially compared to hiring a pediatrician. Here’s how to approach the process.

When the time comes to seek a counselor or therapist for your child, it often arises from recognizing their struggles or receiving feedback from the school indicating they may need support. Allowing someone into your child’s emotional sphere is a significant decision—so how do you ensure you select the right professional?

Start with Recommendations

If your child’s pediatrician or another trusted individual can recommend a counselor, therapist, or psychologist specializing in talk therapy, that’s an excellent starting point. If medication might be necessary, a referral to a psychiatrist is also valuable. Many families begin with talk therapy and progress to medication if required.

Consider Insurance Options

Your first question should likely be, “Do you accept insurance?” Unfortunately, in my experience, the most highly-rated professionals are often not part of insurance networks. However, I have been thankful for those who provide easy-to-submit paperwork for out-of-network claims. One therapist even handled the claims herself, which was incredibly helpful.

Additionally, don’t overlook free counseling services offered at your child’s school. The quality of care can vary, but it’s reassuring to have someone within the school familiar with your child’s issues. We have often utilized both the free school counselor and a private therapist simultaneously, which has proven beneficial.

Key Questions to Ask

In a time when many children are in crisis, it can be difficult to find available providers. Learn from my mistakes: don’t spend ten minutes describing your child’s struggles only to find out they can’t accept new patients. Start by simply asking, “Are you accepting new clients?” If you received a referral, mention it; that can sometimes help you secure an appointment.

When explaining your child’s situation, Jeanne Taylor, a psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, suggests summarizing the issue in a concise phrase. For instance, say, “I believe my son has severe anxiety,” or “Can you help a 9-year-old with a deep fear of the dark?” Avoid delving into their entire history on the first call—that can wait for the next step.

Scheduling the Intake

The initial meeting, known as an intake, focuses on understanding the extent of the issue rather than providing treatment. This session generally involves a detailed interview with both you and your child. Expect to fill out paperwork with personal questions and participate in a lengthy discussion, which may cost more than a standard session.

I find this part particularly challenging—not just due to the cost and time involved but also because it can lead to the realization that you may not be in the right place. I’ve often discovered that the expert’s approach doesn’t align with my views after the intake. If that happens, it’s essential to pivot and search for another professional, even though it means repeating the process.

Getting Started with Treatment

Once you find a suitable match, it’s time to tackle the logistics. Ask, “When can you fit us in?” Some therapists keep openings for new clients, while others may have a waitlist. If evening or weekend sessions are necessary, inquire about availability early on. Finding an appointment that fits your schedule might require some rearranging.

Value the Process

Mental health care is vital and should be prioritized. Ensure your child attends their appointments punctually and actively listen to the therapist’s insights. However, it’s also essential to allow your child some privacy during their sessions. Trust that you’re helping to establish a foundation for their long-term mental wellness.

For more guidance on this journey, check out our other article here and for authoritative resources, visit Make a Mom and NICHD.

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Summary

Choosing a mental health professional for your child is a significant decision that requires careful consideration. Start with trusted recommendations, check insurance compatibility, and ask the right questions to ensure you find an expert who fits your child’s needs. The intake process can be revealing, and finding the right match is crucial for effective treatment.