Father’s Day often brings a mix of emotions for me. While it’s a time for joyful pancake breakfasts and backyard barbecues, it also serves as a reminder of the years that have passed without my father. However, as I create new memories with my own children, I find comfort in sharing stories about their grandpa. Beyond his warmth and humor, I cherish the wisdom he imparted over the years.
Reflecting on his lessons, I realize how many of them truly resonated with me, despite my teenage attempts to tune him out with my headphones. For all the parents out there who feel their children aren’t listening, take heart; wisdom does seep in, even through the eye-rolls and distracted phones. Here are twenty lessons I learned from my dad:
- Your reputation is paramount. Always act in a way that upholds it; if you can’t be good, at least be discreet. In today’s social media landscape, this is more crucial than ever.
- Spread joy wherever you go. Politeness and kindness matter, regardless of someone’s status in life. Remember to say “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry.”
- Dress with intention. Avoid unflattering, baggy clothes and choose outfits that reflect your femininity. My dad had a particular aversion to bright nail polish on his daughters.
- Engage actively with the world. There are three types of people: those who watch things happen, those who make things happen, and those who wonder what happened. Strive to be a doer.
- Prioritize intellect over appearance. Beauty fades, but knowledge endures. My dad encouraged us to read and engage in educational activities. We often shared reading time and vocabulary lessons that helped us learn.
- Enjoy diverse music. While he couldn’t play an instrument, our home was filled with various genres that enriched our lives.
- Practice generosity in tipping. You never know when you might find yourself in a similar position.
- Have faith. Believing in a higher power can provide strength and comfort.
- Be a gracious host. Make everyone feel welcome when they visit your home.
- Step outside your comfort zone. Don’t be a recluse; meeting new people requires effort.
- Choose a partner wisely. Look for someone intelligent, kind, hardworking, and respectful toward their family.
- Maintain an air of mystery. Don’t make yourself too available; let others pursue you.
- Be mindful of your words. Words can hurt, so choose them carefully. I learned this lesson particularly well during our spirited debates.
- Be a loyal friend. Show affection, generosity, and care for those around you.
- Understand the value of money. Don’t waste it, though he enjoyed treating us to nice meals and pleasant experiences.
- Give back. Regularly contribute to your community.
- Family is everything. Love and honor your parents and siblings, and keep in touch with your grandparents.
- Honesty is crucial. Lying creates unnecessary stress; strive for authenticity and avoid being boastful.
- Don’t rush to judgment. Just like my father said, “One hot day doesn’t make it summer.” Take time to assess situations and people.
- Sweets can strengthen bonds. Many cherished moments were spent sharing treats like Reese’s Mini Peanut Butter Cups or warm chocolate chip cookies.
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In summary, my father’s lessons remain a guiding force in my life. They emphasize integrity, kindness, intelligence, and the importance of family, enriching both my parenting approach and my interactions with others.
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