A pivotal moment in my life occurred when my child inadvertently stepped on my breast, prompting a realization about my body—a realization that underscored what my body had transformed into, or more accurately, what it had ceased to be.
Let me clarify: I’m not into unconventional activities, unless you categorize my fondness for sleep as a kink. The individual responsible for this incident was none other than my four-year-old son, who distinguishes his actions as either “on purpose” or “by accident.” While this particular episode was undeniably accidental, a flurry of disjointed thoughts raced through my sleep-deprived mind: ‘ouch my breast, ouch my self-esteem, shouldn’t this phase be over yet? Well, that just happened.’
The discomfort was palpable, but it symbolized something deeper—something I had felt for a long time but had never fully acknowledged. No matter how much I correct or discipline, my reality is one where my body is no longer a private domain and I relinquish control over it. You might think, “Isn’t that what pregnancy prepares you for? Sharing your body for nine months?” Theoretically, I was ready, envisioning a scenario akin to a communal sharing of my body. But instead of a utopian sharing, I found myself in a dictatorship where I wasn’t even the one in charge.
The Abstract Understanding of Control
Before parenthood, I had some idea of what it meant to give up control, but it was more of an abstract understanding, like the technicalities of a space shuttle’s operation. I knew privacy would be scarce, especially during what used to be my solo bathroom trips, but the idea of my child inadvertently stepping on my breast? That thought never crossed my mind as preparation for motherhood.
This seemingly trivial incident represented a loss of autonomy—an expectation to brace for the unexpected, but also for the unimaginable. Motherhood transformed me into an object, a noun, and roles I had never envisioned. I became a source of sustenance, a comfort item, a source of entertainment, and a learning tool—all of which blurred the lines of my identity. The decision to breastfeed was inherently mine, but in doing so, I surrendered certain freedoms, most notably the freedom of movement.
The Challenge of Autonomy
The pain I endured during those initial weeks of breastfeeding, compounded by family support, stripped me of the ability to dictate who could see my body. I found myself unable to choose when I could shower, or even sleep, as my autonomy was continually challenged. Reality presented me with a new layer of complexity: a multi-participant discussion around pumping schedules, further illustrating how my notion of “my body” had become an outdated concept.
Moreover, I grappled with the loss of internal privacy. My mind was no longer solely my own, as I navigated a constant inflow of information and obligations. This relentless stream of thoughts and inquiries from my son is one of motherhood’s most rewarding yet demanding aspects. It made me yearn for just a few moments of solitude to reconnect with my own thoughts.
Embracing the Transformation
In conclusion, the loss of bodily autonomy is not inherently negative; rather, it highlights a significant transformation. I embody food, comfort, entertainment, and education for my children—roles that will eventually shift as they grow. The autonomy over my body and mind will eventually return, but in the meantime, I cherish the moments that define this unique journey of motherhood.
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