Holidays can be particularly challenging for families with children on the autism spectrum. The combination of school breaks, large gatherings, loud voices, and overwhelming scents can create an environment that is far from festive. Having two 14-year-old sons with autism, we have navigated many holiday events, and while Christmas may not be the most accommodating holiday, there are ways to make it manageable. Here are some strategies to help your family find joy during this time.
Arrive Early to Your Destination
Getting to your location before the chaos ensues allows your child to adjust to the new environment. This settling period is crucial; for my son, transitioning from the car to Grandma’s kitchen can take some time. By arriving early, you can ensure a smoother transition and not miss out on the meal.
Bring Familiar Foods
To avoid sensory issues related to food, it’s helpful to bring items that your child will eat. For us, this means plain fruit salad—no added sauces or toppings. In the past, we’ve transported entire meals to relatives’ homes, which often included lunch meats, rice crackers, and homemade chicken nuggets. While these may not be traditional holiday dishes, they ensure that our children are comfortable and well-fed.
Consider Hosting
If it’s feasible, hosting the holiday gathering at your home can reduce stress. You can manage the environment better and create a comfortable space for your children. Invite family and friends to contribute dishes, which lightens your load. Hosting also means your kids can access familiar toys and activities, making the experience less overwhelming.
Provide Activities for Engagement
To keep your children occupied, bring along games or devices they enjoy. For instance, our family often takes the Wii gaming system to gatherings. While others engage in conversation, my son finds comfort in familiar games, preventing him from seeking out other distractions, like repeatedly opening doors.
Designate a Quiet Eating Area
Meals can be overwhelming for children with autism. Identify a peaceful space away from the noise for your child to eat and relax. In our case, we have used a quiet corner at family homes or even a pantry to provide a break from the excitement. This approach helped our boys when they were younger, allowing them to manage their sensory overload during meal times.
Maintain Routine as Much as Possible
Holidays disrupt regular schedules, which can increase anxiety for both children and parents. Try to keep certain routines intact. For instance, during one gathering, I took my son for a drive to drop off recyclables, a task that usually happens on Thursdays. This familiar activity helped him feel more at ease.
Communicate Your Needs
Be open with family and friends about what support you require to make the holiday smoother. Whether it’s a quiet area, assistance, or understanding regarding your child’s behavior, most people are willing to help if they know what you need.
Prepare for the Unexpected
Not every holiday gathering will go according to plan. Recognize your family’s limits and be ready to leave if the situation becomes too overwhelming. It’s better to exit before reaching the breaking point.
Cultivate Gratitude
Despite the challenges, take a moment to appreciate the time spent with family. Be thankful for small victories, such as a child taking a nap or a peaceful moment during the day. Look for humor in the chaos, like when your son unexpectedly snatches a roll from a relative’s hand. After the festivities, allow yourself a moment of relaxation, perhaps with a glass of wine.
In conclusion, while the holiday season can present unique challenges for families with children on the autism spectrum, with proactive planning and open communication, it is possible to navigate these times more smoothly. For additional insights, consider visiting resources like Johns Hopkins Fertility Center for comprehensive information.
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